Emotionally Abusive Relationship Intervention - 3 Keys to Freeing Yourself from Emotional Abuse

A psychologist in India recently asked me to writecontrol. The way in which you experience this is that
about the following - How can a woman, one withouthis emotional assault will be enhanced in direct
access to professional help, take steps towardsproportion to his vulnerability.
freeing herself from an emotionally abusiveSo, you must see that the act of being emotionally
relationship?abusive is his way of reconciling his own perceived
As I think about this question, I realize that this wasimpotence. It is not an expression of his power;
the inspiration for my writing in the first place. Irather, it is an expression of his own personal
wanted to reach battered women who requested,vulnerability.
but could not afford, my professional services.3) Find the YOU behind the assault.
In my writings over the last three years, I haveThis key is ultimately what gives you the strength to
focused on the psychology of relationship violence.not just merely survive, but to thrive in the face of
There are a number of important learning steps toemotional abuse. And ultimately, it is what allows you
freeing yourself from emotional abuse...to break free from an emotionally abusive
1) Recognize that verbal, psychological and emotionalrelationship.
abuse are not about you.When you know the YOU within yourself, you refuse
The cruel words that your abusive partner freelyto be defined by your partner's emotional assaults.
flings at you and the hurtful emotional manipulationsYou draw an enduring strength from this knowing
that he plays on you say more about him than theythat serves to support your higher good.
say about you.In my own life, the practice of meditation allowed me
In fact, I'd go so far as to say that the specifics areto cultivate an alliance with the essence uniting all of
merely the convenient bullets used effortlesslyus. And from here, I was no longer entrapped by
because of their convenience. For example, if heintimate partner abuse.
picks on you because of your weight or puts youBreaking Free or Overcoming Emotional Abuse
down over your intellect, recognize that he grabs forNow for some women, the ultimate breaking free
what's in his reach.may entail leaving the relationship and seeking refuge
He may even batterer you with an innermostoutside of the home shared with their abusive
vulnerability that you intimately shared with him on anpartner. And for others, it may involve inspiring their
earlier occasion. So, while the words and abusivepartner's participation in an appropriate domestic
conduct may be relevant to your life or yourabuse intervention program. This is most likely to
experience, be mindful that they are simply used ashappen as a result of the emotional abuse victim
the darts to throw because they are convenientlyengaging in her own psychotherapeutic process.
within his reach.Be mindful that you—and only you—can know
2) See the battering assaults for what they are.the right path for yourself. There are no right and
Batterers strike for one reason and one reason alone.wrong answers when it comes to domestic abuse.
They seek to transform their own vulnerability intoThere are only decisions that support your safety
invincibility relative to you.and the realization of your highest good.
Battering, whether emotional abuse, verbal abuse orIf you are in an emotionally abusive relationship and
physical abuse, is an attempt to create or maintainlack any financial resources for professional help, read
unequal distribution of power in an intimatefrom the Internet and from your local library as much
relationship. It is a strategy to consciously, and oftenas you can about the dynamics of abusive
unconsciously, exert control.relationships. And in your moment of emergency,
You probably know that abuse is fundamentallyreach out to your local community charity agencies
about control. And when an abuser feels he's losingthat support battered women.
his grip, violence will escalate so as to re-engage