| If you've ever been served with a phony order from | | | | personal experience that I got searched much more |
| an ex, you'll know how hard it is to know where to | | | | often at airports during the three years I was under |
| begin fighting a restraining order. But there are | | | | a restraining order - I fly every couple of weeks, and |
| several things I want to say to those fathers who | | | | when the order was removed from my record, |
| can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. | | | | those extra checks stopped immediately. |
| It is a lesson often forgot, and it is: You need to be | | | | Think about the amount of time and frustration you |
| fighting a restraining order for yourself AND your | | | | may have to go through when extra baggage |
| kids. | | | | checks are needed, and searches of your person are |
| You think that sounds obvious? I'm always surprised | | | | conducted - all because of that phony restraining |
| at the number of guys who think they're only dealing | | | | order. |
| with a phony order for their children's sake. They | | | | ... Your Second Amendment Rights Are Withdrawn |
| forget some of the other elements that should be | | | | One of the restrictions of an order filing is that your |
| the driving force behind their crusade. | | | | firearms (and/or access to any) is withdrawn when |
| First of all: in most states, the order becomes part of | | | | the filing is served to you. This will therefore alert the |
| your criminal history. When someone does a | | | | checker whenever you get a firearms license check |
| background check on you, it's flagged up as part of | | | | in future, to stop you obtaining a new weapon during |
| the results. The implications don't seem too bad, until | | | | the period it is effective in. |
| you remember the following points. | | | | ... Many Mistakes Happen |
| ... It Can Cost You Your Job | | | | There have been many cases where an expiration |
| Basically, if you attend any interviews whilst fighting a | | | | date hasn't been entered into the restraining order |
| restraining order, any background checks will reveal | | | | log, or isn't removed with all agencies, and even if |
| this black mark on your record - and they won't | | | | you win a custody battle you may still have the task |
| know the details of why it's a phony allegation. It's | | | | of fighting a restraining order record. You need to |
| highly likely that employers will be put off by finding | | | | get it rescinded as soon as possible. |
| this against your name, and there is the very real | | | | Conclusions |
| possibility that you won't get offered positions you'd | | | | There are more implications than you realise at first |
| have otherwise been hired for. | | | | when your ex files an order against you. Just |
| ... It Affects Future Travel | | | | remember that you need to be fighting a restraining |
| The order is also flagged as a warning to customs | | | | order not just for your kids as part of a custody |
| officials. Imagine having to explain and defend | | | | battle. |
| yourself yet again on a business trip. I know from | | | | |