| You are not his/her words, though it doesn't feel | | | | find yourself kicking you as though you are picking up |
| that way when you are being abused. On a very | | | | where he/she left off, catch yourself in the moment. |
| deep level, you believe those words of disregard, | | | | Stop and ask, "Is that true?" Chances are there is |
| disapproval, disrespect...even the ones that are | | | | another relevant, yet opposite thought that is as true |
| absolutely foul. | | | | if not more true for you. |
| Yet, in a more surface way, you claim not to buy | | | | 3) Come to know the space between your thoughts |
| that trash. You know those are just his/her words. | | | | where all is well. And let yourself bask in the utter |
| And you've heard that the verbal abuse showered | | | | fun of lingering in that satisfying, full sensation. This |
| upon you is not about you. | | | | will be your easiest and also your most challenging |
| So how can you bring all of you aboard to no longer | | | | mission. |
| feel the blow of verbal emotional abuse after your | | | | Now I know that last key sounds like I threw you a |
| abusive relationship? | | | | contradiction, or shall I say an oxymoron. Possibly so. |
| Here are three keys to finding YOU underneath, | | | | Your discovery will emerge out from easy, effortless |
| behind and most definitely before the verbal | | | | bare attention, and your tendency to cling to noisy |
| emotional abuse. | | | | chatter may be relentless. |
| 1) Start with where you are now and find one thing | | | | Over time and with practice, you will see how |
| about yourself that used to be a personal source of | | | | number two and number three work hand in hand, |
| pride and nourishment. Then, bring this activity back | | | | wherein you will find the YOU that resides within |
| into your daily routine. | | | | despite the verbal emotional abuse. |
| 2) When you hear the voice of personal disgust or | | | | |