| A healthy and happy relationship is a partnership of | | | | He will be constantly complaining and are more |
| two people who love each other. Two people who | | | | interested in getting you to admitting wrong doing |
| will cooperate, support, love, depend on each other | | | | rather than listening to what you have to say. |
| and protective of one another. It can be | | | | Your partner always insists that he is right |
| heartbreaking to know that the person you love all | | | | If he has an unyielding attitude towards not only you |
| this while has a dark side. He is an abusive person. | | | | but also towards the relationship, you will notice that |
| Abusive relationships are based on the mistaken | | | | he is very rigid in his ways, in his thinking and in the |
| belief that one person has the right to control | | | | way he does things. He is totally obsessed with |
| another person. | | | | control and wants everything to be done his way or |
| If you are caught in such a situation, you need to | | | | there is NO WAY! |
| understand that no person deserves to be in an | | | | Prominent traits to look out for are: |
| abusive situation. Abusive situation can be categorise | | | | - he refuse to recognise any contribution on your |
| into two - physical abuse and emotional abuse. | | | | part |
| Physical abuse is more commonly discussed and | | | | - he act and say that he is always better than you |
| noticeable because the scar and the after affect of | | | | - he always dominate everything |
| the abuse is very prominent. However, emotional | | | | - he always intimidate and belittle you |
| abuse happens very discreetly and in a subtle way | | | | - he is always intolerant and impatient towards you |
| that a person does not know that they are | | | | - he always end all arguments and confrontation by |
| experiencing emotional relationships abuse until it is to | | | | self declaring himself as the "winner" |
| late. | | | | - he will never acknowledge you are right even |
| Today, we are going to explore the emotional abuse | | | | though he knows that he is wrong |
| that couples face in their relationship. | | | | Your partner turns to personal attack |
| How do you know that you are in an abusive | | | | Does your partner always turn vicious every time |
| relationship? | | | | you argue or have a confrontation? Does he always |
| Your partner keeps scores! | | | | make sure you are hurt and crying after every |
| Your partner guide the relationship by trading favours | | | | disagreement? |
| and duties. He do things for you not from his own | | | | He may or may not raise his voice at you but the |
| free will. He will only do things for you if you return a | | | | sheer viciousness of his words, although relayed in a |
| favour. He will be constantly fighting for leverage and | | | | calm and collected manner will cause you so much |
| the upper hand in the relationship instead of mutual | | | | hurt and pain. His only goal is to relay disgust and |
| cooperation and support. | | | | condemnation. |
| Love, caring and intimacy in any relationship is not a | | | | He gets so much pleasure and satisfaction that he will |
| game or a business that can be traded. When this | | | | purposely attack your vulnerable areas and value. He |
| happen, you will become selfish towards your partner. | | | | enforce intimidation and comment on your every |
| You will want to justify privileges or claim | | | | actions with insult and name calling. |
| entitlements and upper hand. All healthy and loving | | | | Your partner never forgives |
| relationship are built on trust, sacrifice and care and | | | | Another sign of abuse in a relationship is that your |
| NEVER on power and control. | | | | partner bear grudges and have so much anger in him |
| Your partner is always finding faults | | | | that without realising is building a wall between the |
| If your partner is constantly finding faults, | | | | two of you. You find it impossible to have any |
| imperfections and flaws in you rather than | | | | conversation with you. |
| emphasizing on value, then you are definitely in an | | | | His actions and his behaviour reflect that of a person |
| abusive relationship. He is always critical and | | | | who is "trapped" emotionally and is resentful and |
| constantly highlighting your shortcomings. Constantly | | | | bitter. |
| saying something negative towards you, your | | | | It is time you make a decision. You do not deserve |
| actions, your behaviour, your attitude and many | | | | to be trapped in an abusive relationship. You deserve |
| more. | | | | better. |