| If you know my story, you'll understand why I'm | | | | For me it was a patient, skilled therapist who looked |
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| their spouse is slowly but surely chipping away at | | | | Sadly, my divorce decree did not bring an end to the |
| their soul. | | | | abuse. The legal system becomes a powerful |
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