| Most people go into a relationship hoping for an ideal, | | | | 2. There is untreated addiction in your partner. This is |
| where both partners are mutually loving, supportive, | | | | a very challenging situation. You might well be |
| and respectful of the other. When both people are | | | | tempted to try to "save" or otherwise spare your |
| emotionally balanced and put forth effort, | | | | partner the consequences of his or her using. |
| communicate effectively, and love one another, this | | | | Unfortunately this only reinforces the problem, and |
| outcome is certainly possible. However, sometimes | | | | gets you wrapped up in responsibilities that do not |
| one or both partners come in to the relationship with | | | | belong to you. It is easy to neglect your own needs |
| issues that cause damage and destruction to the | | | | in this way and build up resentment. Before long, on |
| other partner and the relationship itself. Here are 3 | | | | this path, you start trying to control your partner's |
| signs your relationship is toxic: | | | | behavior, which is unhealthy for both of you. There |
| 1. Abuse is occurring in the relationship. Physical abuse | | | | are practical considerations as well, as job losses, legal |
| is damaging and dangerous, and generally escalates | | | | trouble (DUI, accidents), and financial troubles as a |
| over time. If this is occurring in your relationship, | | | | result of the substance abuse may negatively impact |
| please seek the help of a domestic violence shelter | | | | you as well. |
| and/or a counselor who specializes in this issue. One | | | | 3. Your partner engages in ongoing infidelity. A |
| of the most dangerous times in this type of | | | | relationship can survive and even be made stronger if |
| relationship is when you leave it, so be sure to get | | | | both partners agree to recommit and establish better |
| professional guidance. Emotional abuse is also very | | | | communication and accountability, but if your partner |
| damaging over time, so if you feeling inferior, | | | | continues in this behavior, there is no foundation upon |
| worthless, or questioning your own sanity when you | | | | which to rebuild. Your feelings of being betrayed will |
| are around your partner, this merit closer | | | | continue to harm you, and you run a very real |
| investigation. Emotional abusers seek to control and | | | | physical risk if you stay with a non-monogamous |
| undermine you. | | | | partner. |