| Abuse in a relationship is one of top reasons couples | | | | apologizes and often buys gifts. Sometimes even |
| divorce. When you make that vow, when you make | | | | promising change and apologizing for their behavior. |
| that commitment, you hope in your heart that this | | | | They then enter into the "honeymoon" phase where |
| will be it. This union will be the one and only union of | | | | things get back to normal, only to have it happen |
| marriage that you will ever have. Unfortunately for | | | | again in the future. Being in this sort of relationship |
| many, the results are not what they originally had | | | | often has one partner "walking on eggshells" and not |
| anticipated. An abusive relationship is cause for | | | | wanting to do anything to upset the abuser. |
| separation and if no change is made in the | | | | This cycle not only goes for physical abuse, but for |
| relationship, then divorce may be your answer. | | | | verbal abuse. A partner that makes inappropriate |
| There are different types of abuse that can occur in | | | | comments to his or her partner on his or her |
| a relationship. One of these is physical abuse. This | | | | appearance, doles out put downs or name calling is |
| kind of abuse is intolerable and should not go on | | | | usually seen as verbal abuse. Unfound accusations or |
| between two people. If there is ever any sort of | | | | constant verbal battery also constitute verbal abuse. |
| physical abuse, the victim in the relationship needs to | | | | Many times verbal abuse follows the cycle of abuse |
| seek out help as soon as possible before it is too | | | | pattern. And as we discussed earlier, if it is not taken |
| late. | | | | care of it can go on for years. |
| One of the things to watch out for in abusive | | | | Abusive relationships are one of the top reasons |
| relationships is something called the cycle of violence. | | | | couples divorce. If you are currently in one and need |
| Many people in the relationship counseling field often | | | | some where to turn, know that you are not alone. |
| speak about this. The cycle is a continuous one and if | | | | There is help out there if you really want it. There |
| not stopped could continue for years. First the | | | | are many that were once in your shoes who want |
| abuser takes out his or her frustrations on their | | | | to help you now in your time of distress. Good luck |
| partner. This person often times then feels guilty and | | | | on your journey. |