| Since the introduction of Australia's ground breaking | | | | less prominent (and in many cases non-existent) in |
| Shared Parental Responsibility (child custody) laws in | | | | Sole Custody arrangements, providing for greater |
| 2006, there has been a decidedly deceptive campaign | | | | opportunities for child abuse to occur undetected and |
| by some to mis-represent these laws as being | | | | for greater periods of time, as reflected in the |
| something that they are clearly not. Following is a list | | | | statistics on child abuse. |
| of 10 myths about Shared Parenting in Australia that | | | | 3. The 2006 Shared Parenting laws have resulted in |
| have been commonly peddled as truths by these | | | | greater risks of family violence for mothers and |
| parties, but are shown to be nothing other than | | | | children. |
| distortions, falsehoods or outright lies. | | | | NOT TRUE. To the parents involved, Shared |
| 1. Children are forced into equal time arrangements | | | | Parenting arrangements are no different to two-day |
| by Australia's Shared Parental Responsibility legislation | | | | per-fortnight arrangements in terms of the mechanics |
| NOT TRUE: There is nothing mandatory about | | | | of contact and change-overs. Shared Parenting does |
| Australia's Shared Parental Responsibility legislation. If | | | | not in any way increase the time that separated |
| anything, it has been described as a soft alternative | | | | parents need to spend with each other, nor need it |
| to what was originally preferred by the majority in | | | | involve any physical or proximate contact between |
| Parliament in 2006, being a "rebuttable presumption of | | | | the parents. |
| equal time parenting", which itself is not mandatory | | | | According to the Australian Institute of Family Studies |
| and is determined primarily on whether such an | | | | evaluation of the 2006 Family Law Reforms, a large |
| arrangement can be safe, practical and in the child's | | | | scale government initiated study into the |
| best interest. | | | | performance of these reforms, the study found that |
| Since the introduction of these laws, there has been | | | | there was no link between the 2006 Shared |
| a decidedly deceptive campaign by some journalists | | | | Parenting amendments and any increased risk of |
| and single mother's groups to mis-represent these | | | | domestic violence or assault against women and |
| laws as being inflexible and mandatory in nature, and | | | | children. |
| as a result forcing Judges to place children into | | | | In fact it has been argued that these laws have to a |
| unsafe or impractical parenting arrangements. | | | | great extent "taken the heat out" of the most |
| Terminology such as "mandatory" and "forced with" | | | | vexed issue in separation, namely that of a child's |
| have often been used in newspaper headlines or | | | | residence, precisely because of the more balanced |
| opinion pieces to portray these laws in a manner that | | | | and child-centric approach to such determinations. |
| is quite unequivocally untrue. | | | | 4. Shared Parenting reduces Child Support |
| The Family Court's Shared Parental Responsibility | | | | commitments, which is why many fathers seek |
| Outcomes report underscores the fact that there is | | | | Shared Parenting arrangements. |
| nothing mandatory about these laws, where the | | | | NOT TRUE. Such comments underlie an element of |
| majority of court outcomes since the introduction of | | | | gender arrogance in suggesting that only mothers can |
| these laws still result in the child residing almost | | | | love their children enough to want to spend time with |
| exclusively with the mother. | | | | them. To be further made by people purporting to |
| If these laws were mandatory in any shape or form, | | | | be feminists is beyond belief. |
| one would have expected that close to 100% of | | | | Nonetheless, the allegation is often made and is |
| court outcomes would have resulted in equal | | | | completely erroneous because Shared Parenting |
| parenting time arrangements, however as evidenced | | | | arrangements are typically more expensive for the |
| by the Court's own figures, the figure is significantly | | | | average father than a non-custodial parenting |
| less at only 15% of outcomes. | | | | arrangement. |
| So someone has been fudging the truth to quite a | | | | Shared Parenting involves a duplication of |
| significant degree, and this should be an important | | | | investments, including new bedroom/s, new |
| point to remember when reading commentary on this | | | | wardrobe of clothing, computers, furniture, toys and |
| debate. Given that some women's groups have | | | | many other expenses, involving substantial capital |
| described Australia's Shared Parenting laws as another | | | | costs. |
| form of domestic violence against women, this | | | | Shared Parenting also shifts a greater proportion of |
| debate is clearly about something more than what is | | | | the day to day costs to the fathers. |
| best for our children, in the eyes of some groups at | | | | Many fathers in Shared Parenting arrangements have |
| least. As a result, the misrepresentation of facts, the | | | | also reported a reduction in their overall working |
| gender specific vitriol and in some cases the | | | | hours to accommodate their Shared Parenting |
| desperate attempt to associate Shared Parenting | | | | arrangement, thus reducing their income. |
| with Paedophilia, have been unparalleled in this | | | | The overall impact is that Shared Parenting |
| country, even for an issue that is so typically vexed | | | | arrangements provide for greater financial investment |
| and controversial as family law. | | | | in the support of their children by fathers, as well as |
| 2. The risk of Child abuse increases for a child in a | | | | greater emotional, psychological and other forms of |
| Shared Parental arrangements. | | | | support. |
| NOT TRUE. Children in Shared Parental arrangements | | | | The child/ren as a result get more overall support |
| have the lowest recorded incidence of Child Abuse in | | | | from their fathers, not less. |
| Australia, even lower than that of intact families. | | | | Single mothers on the other hand do receive less |
| Conversely, children in Sole Custody arrangements | | | | direct financial support from the respective fathers |
| have the highest risk of Child Abuse in Australia. It | | | | with Shared Parenting arrangements, which may go |
| should be noted that over 70% of all familial Child | | | | some way in explaining the worldwide campaigns by |
| Abuse occur in single mother households, 1, 2, 3. | | | | single mothers' groups against Shared Parenting |
| Some have highlighted the child-protective dynamics | | | | initiatives. |
| inherent in Shared Parenting arrangements as being | | | | 5. Children in Shared Parenting arrangements live a |
| similar to that already recognised in extended family | | | | Ping-Pong lifestyle. |
| structures. It has been argued that the broader | | | | NOT TRUE. Shared Parenting arrangements are no |
| nature of parental responsibility in Shared Parenting | | | | different to two-day per-fortnight arrangements in |
| arrangements facilitates a natural transparency of | | | | terms of the frequency of change-overs. Children in |
| care, given that the child is in frequent contact with | | | | Shared Parenting arrangements typically change-over |
| both parents and the respective extended families. | | | | their residence twice a fortnight. Children seeing their |
| This ongoing transparency of care optimises the | | | | father only two days a fortnight also change-over |
| safety and welfare of the children involved, by | | | | their residence twice a fortnight. |
| reducing the possibility of abuse occurring without | | | | The frequency of change-overs is IDENTICAL in |
| one of the parents detecting it at an early stage. | | | | both cases. |
| These natural checks and balances are unfortunately | | | | |