| When you're in an abusive marriage, it is difficult to | | | | Make a list and label it 'reasons to love myself.' Now, |
| love yourself. Whether you are told over and over | | | | spend about a half an hour thinking of all the |
| again why you shouldn't love yourself or you're given | | | | wonderful reasons you should love yourself. What is |
| plenty of reasons not to, it's pretty easy to think | | | | it about you that is special? Every one of us have |
| badly of who you are. However, the first thing you | | | | something great about who we are - so list the |
| should know is that you are no less special, important | | | | things that make you great. You might put beautiful, |
| or valid than anyone else. Some people may not think | | | | funny, talented, patient, understanding, smart - |
| that you're wonderful or beautiful or talented, but | | | | whatever it is, write it down. Then, take a few |
| their opinion does not matter. Yours is the only one | | | | minutes to look over the list and think about those |
| that does. Here are some tips for learning to love | | | | amazing qualities or talents you possess. Read this list |
| you in an abusive marriage. | | | | and truly think about it at least once a day or |
| First of All... | | | | whenever you are feeling down on yourself. |
| You need to get out of an abusive marriage. There is | | | | Join a Support Group |
| absolutely no reason why you should stay with | | | | There are many others who are going through or |
| someone who is abusive - especially when there are | | | | have gone through the same thing as you. Finding a |
| plenty of great, loving, kind and gentle people who | | | | great support group, whether it's online or in your |
| are looking for someone just like you! If someone is | | | | local area - is a great way to feel better about |
| abusing you, what does that say about how much | | | | yourself. You can see how those who have been in |
| they care for you? Nothing! If you are afraid to leave | | | | abusive relationships are down on themselves and |
| because you think your spouse will retaliate against | | | | you will probably be the first to realize that the things |
| you or your children, wait until he or she is gone to | | | | they think about themselves aren't usually true. This |
| leave. | | | | will help you a lot as you realize that you are more |
| Go straight to the police station and tell them what's | | | | important and special than you think. Speaking with |
| happening. They can protect you and they will. If you | | | | others who can offer valuable tips and suggestions |
| have no financial resources, they will point you in the | | | | helps greatly as well. |
| direction of groups or organizations that will help you. | | | | By following these important tips and suggestions, |
| There is no excuse for staying with an abusive | | | | you can learn to love you for you and realize that |
| spouse. Many, many ordinary people find out that | | | | you are special and wonderful in many different |
| they are heroes each year when they get | | | | ways. Allowing someone to dictate the way you feel |
| themselves and their children out from under an | | | | about yourself is unacceptable. Learn to love yourself |
| abusive spouse. | | | | today with the tips and suggestions in this article. |
| On to Loving Yourself | | | | |