| Divorce is never an easy option to consider. You | | | | drug of choice, and your partner will not be able to |
| have a shared history, a common living arrangement, | | | | be fully present in the relationship. There may be |
| mutual friends and family, shared finances, and the | | | | crisis after crisis, sapping your energy and focus. In |
| children of the marriage to consider. However, there | | | | addition, you may be setting yourself up for financial |
| are instances where the marriage may be so | | | | and legal issues (DUI, accidents, even charges related |
| destructive and damaging that staying in the marriage | | | | to a death, if your partner exercises poor judgment |
| is exceedingly damaging and divorce may be a valid | | | | while using and someone loses their life as a result). |
| consideration. If these patterns of behavior are | | | | 3. There is habitual infidelity on your partner. An affair |
| occurring and your partner is unwilling to address | | | | may strengthen a marriage, if both partners are |
| them, enough may be enough. Here are 4 signs that | | | | willing to put in the work and commitment required |
| the marriage may be beyond saving: | | | | to address communication and accountability. But if |
| 1. You are abused in the relationship. Obviously, | | | | one partner continues to violate trust by cheating |
| physical abuse is extremely dangerous. It often | | | | over and over, there is no foundation for relationship. |
| escalates over time. If you are experiencing physical | | | | You also risk your health, and perhaps very life, being |
| abuse or are worried it could happen, please contact | | | | intimate with someone who is not being exclusive |
| a domestic violence shelter and/or a counselor | | | | with you. |
| specializing in this issue to come up with a safe game | | | | 4. Your partner is afflicted with a personality disorder, |
| plan. It is a very dangerous time when you leave a | | | | such as narcissism or sociopathy/psychopathy. These |
| physical abuser, and you need professional | | | | types of disorders often lead to destructive |
| intervention. As for emotional abuse, it is also very | | | | behaviors such as those mentioned above. |
| damaging, albeit in a more insidious way. If you are | | | | Unfortunately, the general consensus is that these |
| feeling inferior, worthless, or wonder if you are crazy | | | | disorders are not treatable. Behaviors may be |
| around your partner, you may be experiencing | | | | modified and may become less damaging with |
| emotional and psychological abuse in your relationship. | | | | enough work, but most people with this issue don't |
| 2. Your partner is actively abusing drugs and alcohol | | | | find it a problem and thus are not motivated to |
| and refuses treatment. Life with an addict can be | | | | change anything. |
| very chaotic. You will always take a back seat to the | | | | |