The Circle of Domestic Violence

To be alive is a gift. Violence is a term we use toa good citizen. Good parenting is learned and passed
denote physical abuse. Domestic violence is just that.down as is bad parenting. For many years, they feed,
This may be hitting, slapping, punching, kicking, givingshelter and clothe a child. Children learn from what
or receiving slaps to another person. Done in anger orthey live around and as teens, from friends. Each
a rage these actions can be deadly. Domesticperson has worth. Each person is different. Jealousy
Violence happens much more than is ever reported.is normal when wronged by another. Yet may be a
The majority of women who come into emergencymean and cruel emotion. It can be unlearned. Jealousy
rooms are there because of some form of domesticis usually involved in domestic violence.
violence. Proper knowledge is power. It may saveSomeone plays with your emotions if you allow it.
your life, your children's lives or someone you know.Free will dictates that each of us has power. We
To jump in between a fight between two men canhave choices about ourselves. You do not have to
cost you your life. To interfere in couples fightingparticipate in an argument or incite jealousy in
may also cost you yours, so learn the facts andanother. Trust and faithfulness keep it away.
truth about domestic violence. It comes in manyCommunication is a key factor. People communicate
forms. These may overlap. Both males and femalesin differing ways. The circle of domestic violence is
sustain abuse. Beatings and battering are never areal. There is pain inflicted. This pain is physical,
solution to a problem.spiritual, emotional or economic. The person asks
The forms of abuse are physical, spiritual, emotionalwhat did you do to me? Why did you do this to me?
and economic. Most violent forms involve drugs andWhy did I allow this to happen to me? Confusion
or excess of alcohol. Personally, I believe all humansmay come into play. Then more accusations come.
have suffered abuse in one form or another at someWhy did you do this to me? Don't you feel sorry for
time in their life. There are degrees of abuse. Humanswhat you did? Just look at me and why did you do
make mistakes. Humans have positive or good traits.this? There is a time for the make up. Our minds
Humans have negative or evil traits. Each of us arethink it will not happen again. We think of only the
born, die, teach and are judged. Rage is differentgood in the other person. Then the pain comes again.
than anger. It is dangerous because the person is outNo one cares because they believe you are foolish to
of control of self. Who doesn't get angry? Why doallow these things to happen. Policemen and women
you become angry? Frustration is just one reason.see it all too often. Property damage and damaged
Injustice is another. Some persons who are mentallylives. Sometimes for many, many years.
impaired become angry for no reason. EmotionsThere is help. Go to your local hospital and let medical
cause a thought. How many emotions do humanspeople know and understand what is happening. File
possess? The thought caused by a negative emotioncharges. Move away if you have to. your life is more
may be real or imagined. The thought may be actedimportant than possessions. There are shelters, yet I
upon or not. we have choices. Being raised in a homefound in my past persons there who did not
that is violent does not mean that person as an adultunderstand or care maybe because they had not
has to continue this behavior.experienced abuse and it was just a job for a
As an adult, we have choices or preferences.paycheck for them. Things can be replaced. You
Preferences make up the personality. Property iscannot. You can and will have a better life without an
something owned. It is a thing. In my thoughts andabuser. There are ways for an abuser to change. It
experience, no one has ever had the right to owntakes time and effort. Classes and probation for
me but my Creator. What do you believe? Anotherthese offenders exist. If someone blames you,
person may make a suggestion to help. A parentunderstand they are ignorant. Do not blame yourself.
places much time and effort into raising a child to beDo not go back for you deserve a better life.