| Why do domestic abuse victims see the abuse | | | | directs what is placed before the court." |
| dynamic in their home, but fail to recognize it in their | | | | 4) Failure to appreciate that abuse is about control in |
| divorce proceedings? | | | | family court, too. |
| The answer to this question is the same answer to | | | | 5) Failure to know the difference between "use of |
| the question, "Why doesn't she awaken to the abuse | | | | legal process" and "abuse of legal process." |
| in her home?" You know the answer: she is part of | | | | 6) Failure to grasp the distinction between what is |
| the very dynamic for which she seeks remedy. | | | | truly within their domain and what lies in the domain |
| Here are some common and deadly mistakes victims | | | | of their opposition. |
| of domestic violence make as they navigate the | | | | 7) Failure to know successful warfare strategies, |
| system en route to divorce closure and protection | | | | much less how to put them into place in the context |
| from abuse. | | | | of their divorce. |
| 1) Failure to recognize the possibility (much less the | | | | If you are seeking remedy for abuse via family |
| reality) of the abuse dynamic between themselves | | | | court, first ask yourself if you are ready to end being |
| and their own attorneys. | | | | abused. Because, if you haven't fully digested and |
| 2) Failure to realize how their divorce lawyer's fees | | | | answered this question, chances are you are going |
| will be paid after the initial retainer runs out. | | | | from the frying pan to the fire of legal domestic |
| 3) Failure to understand the impact of "He who pays | | | | abuse. |