Teen Abusive Relationships - How to Understand and Solve This Huge Problem in Our Communities

Teen abusive relationships is another one of theof, or misunderstand, some of the signs. Such things
areas of abusive relationships that is part of the hugeas being overly attentive and seemingly protective.
issue of relationship problems.It is likely these things happen in the early stages of
There are so many overall aspects of this issue tothe relationship and can be interpreted initially as
take into consideration. To get some idea of what Ihealthy jealousy or caring.
am referring to it may be helpful to touch on someBefore long it will be experienced as possessiveness,
of the statistics that are available to us.or acting like they own you, and wanting to control
Many of them are not up to date, however theyyou in every way. Putting you down and undermining
give us some indication of the scale of the problem.you in a whole range of ways, classic parts of teen
Also these figures are not comprehensive as theabusive relationships as well as all other abusive
extent of the problem is not really known becauserelationships.
of the under reporting that occurs.This will involve telling you what to do and not to do.
This happens for various reasons, usually because ofIt will include extremes of mood and temperament.
the fear and intimidation that is such an integral partThere will be the apologies and promises of it never
of abusive relationships, including teen abusivehappening again.
relationships.You want to believe him as he seems so sincere and
Other aspects of this lack of reporting is thegenuine, only you find before long he resorts to the
embarrassment experienced and many victims havesame tactics, often with the addition of placing the
been conditioned to believe they are responsible forresponsibility onto you.
the abuse in some way.I met someone recently who was pushed over by
Many abusers present as shining knights to others,her ex partner and she broke her arm. He told her it
even victim's own families, and those being abusedwas her own fault. He accepted no responsibility.
think they will not be believed, because of howOther aspects of abusive relationships, including teen
others experience the abuser.abusive relationships, is being subjected to false
Given the fact none of the figures known are reallyaccusations, suggesting you have been unfaithful and
accurate, those we come across give some indicationthe like.
of the extent of the problem.You can be prevented from doing things you want
One set of statistics indicated that domestic violenceto do, including being isolated from friends and family.
is the leading cause of injury to women between theThis is not an exhaustive list as there are many other
ages of 15 and 44 in the United States - more thanthings that could be mentioned.
rapes, muggings, and automobile accidents combined.The big question is - why do so many men carry on
As indicated by the age range, this includes teenlike this? Most explanations, such as being insecure,
abusive relationships.having low self esteem, problems with anger, or
Another statistic indicated a woman is beaten everydrugs and alcohol etc., are simply excuses in my
9 seconds in the United States. Yet another showedview, and are not helpful at all.
a woman is in nine times more danger of violentThe only way I can make sense of it is, that as
attack in her home than on the streets.males we are encouraged to think we are superior to
Women and teenage girls are more likely to bewomen. Consequently, those who allow themselves
victims of homicide when they decide to separateto be influenced by this programming, tend to adopt
from husbands or boyfriends. There are 3 killed onthe role of master and believe they have every right
average every week in the United States. The risk isto hold power over and dominate those inferior lot,
highest in the first two months after separation.namely women and children.
Women and teenage girls are often severely injured -This is the modeling that is rife in society and it is no
22 to 35% of of those who visit medical emergencysurprise it is manifested in teen abusive relationships.
rooms are there for injuries related to ongoing abuse.The only way relationships can work is for us to
Surveys show that abuse in dating relationships isagree that men and women are equal, no one is
prevalent. Some suggest the incidence is on thesuperior or inferior to the other, and this is shown by
increase. About one in three females will experiencethe way we relate to each other.
violence at the hands of their boyfriends before theyIt follows we acknowledge and respect each other,
reach adulthood, so this also relates to teen abusiveand have relationships many people have no idea is
relationships.possible, and as a result, have richer, fuller and more
Sometimes teenage girls do not recognize they aresatisfying lives.
involved in abusive relationships, as they are unaware