| "When I'm distressed by your inconsiderate actions | | | | you. And from here, he may elect to do things |
| with respect to me and I point this out to you, a | | | | differently. Your hope is that he wants things better, |
| door opens for another round of you demonstrating | | | | as do you. |
| your superiority with respect to me. | | | | However, after you eloquently put your statement/s |
| If you're in an abusive relationship, you probably | | | | on the table, he quickly lets you know that you |
| know how this looks and feels. Read on and see if | | | | should have told him this earlier or in a different |
| you recognize these subtle communication patterns | | | | setting or different tone or different |
| of domestic abuse and signs of an abusive | | | | anything...anything but like it was done. |
| relationship. | | | | And with this, both you and he quickly shift the |
| Your Attempt to Share Your Objections and the | | | | focus to your delivery flaw and bypass fully digesting |
| Diversion Control Tactic | | | | and processing your "complaint/feedback/request." |
| Even though you may not be accustomed to being | | | | So, what we have here is a diversion tactic wherein |
| forthright in your abusive relationship, you step up to | | | | he avoids accountability for the original issue and has |
| the plate and put your distress and objections out | | | | successfully enlisted you as "the problem." You hear |
| for your partner to digest. You hope that by sharing | | | | me: once again he made you "the problem." And the |
| what you have observed and how it leaves you | | | | abusive control dynamics roll on... |
| feeling he will understand how his behavior affects | | | | |