| Respect needs to be earned, not begged for. To get | | | | 3) Fight back: If confrontation with the person does |
| respect one needs to learn to give respect. Very | | | | not culminate into positive healthy conversations, |
| often, the elderly think age gives them the edge to | | | | then hit back the person verbally. Let them |
| act as nasty as they want to be. Some classical | | | | understand how it feels, exactly how they have |
| examples are those of a mother-in-law verbally and | | | | made you feel. Often this may or may not be |
| emotionally abusing her daughter-in-law, a husband | | | | effective but its worth a try! |
| insulting his wife or viceversa, relatives throwing | | | | 4) Be Nice: This is a tough one. If someone |
| derogatory comparison based barbs or even a boss | | | | repeatedly makes you look and feel bad with their |
| repeatedly insulting an employee. Everyone needs to | | | | abusive language or taunts, its really tough to be nice. |
| be put in their right perspective if they get nasty. | | | | Usually a person who insults you, sub consciously |
| Here are some ways to deal with insulting verbal | | | | knows you will not insult them or take things lying |
| abuse. | | | | down. That's why they are motivated to insult you |
| Top 5 Ways to Deal with Insults | | | | repeatedly in the first place. Often insulting people are |
| 1) Ignore: Ignorance is bliss. When you know you are | | | | insecure and emotionally weak deep within. You can |
| not at fault and yet a particular insecure adult tries to | | | | be extra nice and win them over with being extra |
| pull you down each time, just turn a deaf ear. | | | | nice with genuine caring for this person. This sounds |
| There's nothing more insulting that letting the person | | | | hard to be true, but can work! |
| crib, fret and fume without so much as acknowledge | | | | 5) Forgive and forget: If none of the above |
| their existence. | | | | techniques work, then just forgive and forget. Don't |
| 2) Confront: Do not take insults lying down. If you | | | | let the hurt habor on in your mind. Negative feelings |
| are convinced that the person gets a sense of being | | | | and thoughts are more detrimental to your own |
| "one up" by throwing barbs at you, face the person | | | | health than anyone else's. So just believe in God - |
| head on. Confront the person and ask what their | | | | forgive, forget and move on! |
| problem is, why they behave as they do. | | | | |