| When trying to find solutions to domestic disputes, | | | | In the first two types altercations, there are several |
| it's first important to understand what it is and figure | | | | common sense solutions. Couple's counseling is one of |
| out what type it is. These incidents can range from | | | | the best solutions to domestic disputes in these two |
| simple disagreements or arguments about how to | | | | situations- along with a willingness to learn how to |
| manage household chores or the children, to verbal | | | | communicate in an effective and positive manner. |
| and mental attacks for no apparent reason, and then | | | | The willingness to resolve the problem and to |
| there are those which turn into physical | | | | compromise will go a long way towards solving both |
| confrontations and one person begins physically | | | | of these types of disputes. |
| attacking the other one. | | | | In a situation involving physical attacks, physical |
| When dealing with the first type of domestic dispute, | | | | confrontations or intimidation tactics- there usually is |
| the best thing to remember is that nothing gets | | | | no "compromise." If you fear for your safety or that |
| resolved in the heat of anger. If you and your | | | | of your children, then you need to get yourself and |
| partner find yourselves disagreeing and the | | | | them out of the situation. In this situation, the |
| disagreement turns into an argument that no one's | | | | solution often is to leave and go somewhere safe, |
| winning- it's best to take a breather and give each | | | | calling the police for help if necessary. You can't |
| other some space until you both cool down. The | | | | reason with an abuser, and no matter how many |
| best resolution to this type of dispute is to | | | | times he/she promises they won't do it again, this is |
| re-approach the subject after you've both calmed | | | | usually untrue- once physically violent, always |
| down and to come up with a compromise that you | | | | physically violent. |
| can both live with. | | | | In some cases, solutions to domestic disputes are |
| In a situation where one partner is verbally attacking | | | | simple, and can be handled in a mature manner if |
| the other, there may come a point in which the one | | | | both parties are willing. In other cases, the solutions |
| who is being attacked needs to say "You're attacking | | | | to domestic disputes are to simply get away from |
| me, and it needs to stop." If the attacked refuses to | | | | the situation and don't go back. These altercations |
| stop his/her attacks, then you need to remove | | | | between couples can vary as much as personalities in |
| yourself from the situation and make sure he/she | | | | people, finding out what kind of personality you and |
| understands that you will not discuss the topic with | | | | your partner's altercations or disagreements have, will |
| him/her unless they are willing to communicate | | | | provide the answer as to the best solution for them. |
| without attacking. | | | | |