| ou know the signs of emotional verbal abuse are | | | | When someone is entangled in an abusive relationship, |
| your friends if you recognize them for what they | | | | they can become trapped with a double burden: a) |
| are? | | | | dealing with the abuse and then b) if they choose to |
| An adult survivor of severe childhood abuse by her | | | | leave, exiting the relationship safely. |
| natural father plotted with her sister (also abused) to | | | | By settling into an abusive relationship, you may very |
| kill their parents in cold blood. The mother, who | | | | well be walking into quicksand, because BOTH the |
| watched the children being abuse, took the first bullet | | | | entanglement in the relationship and exit out of it can |
| and the abusive father the second. | | | | be debilitating, destructive ...downright dangerous! |
| As I'm watching this Law in Order story, I'm | | | | THIS IS WHY early detection is the best option |
| reminded of the mother's dilemma. Love, or leave | | | | when it comes to domestic abuse. This is why you |
| 'em? Each of these options can be equally ugly. | | | | want to know what are the signs of emotional |
| If she hangs in there to keep the family together, | | | | abuse. What does your partner's emotional verbal |
| she is an accomplice in the child abuse. And if she | | | | abuse mean in the bigger picture of your relationship |
| leaves him, further abuse to her and to the children | | | | and in the bigger picture of your life? |
| spikes more often than not. It is truly a dilemma. | | | | October is National Domestic Violence Awareness |
| I know...I lived it. When I reached my threshold of | | | | month. If you are the least bit curious about whether |
| witnessing my ex batter our children, I opened two | | | | you are in an abusive relationship, I invite you to |
| doors. One was the door of freedom to regain our | | | | check it out, before it spirals out of control. |
| safety and wholeness. The other was a black hole of | | | | ©Copyright 2007 Dr. Jeanne King Consultants, |
| social political crime beyond most people's imagination. | | | | LLC All Rights Reserved. |
| For the whole story on this, see All But My Soul: | | | | This article is available for reprint so long as the |
| Abuse Beyond Control. For now, come with me and | | | | author’s copyright, bio byline and contact |
| hear the point of this message from the core of | | | | URLs are included. |
| your being. | | | | |