| In your relationship, you felt like you could not trust | | | | of accomplishment unless you solve world hunger? |
| your own instincts and games were played with your | | | | And even with that you want people there to tell |
| mind. Even though you left the abuser, you are left | | | | you how wonderful you are. In my own experience |
| with the residue of these thoughts around the clock. | | | | of recovery, this was and still is a work in progress. |
| The Most Important Building block for your recovery | | | | Even though you were expected to be an unpaid |
| foundation is Validation and Self Approval. | | | | mind reader in your relationship, you can now relax |
| If you are like me, you are probably looking at these | | | | and enjoy your own victories no matter what it is. |
| words as somewhat foreign. The only validation you | | | | This time you set the rules. This will help you to |
| may have received in your relationship came from | | | | develop confidence in enjoying yourself without |
| your abuser in the words- you are not enough and | | | | needing the opinions of others. |
| why can't you just do what I ask. Are those words | | | | 3. Believe that You are fabulous. Just because. You |
| familiar? | | | | were created by God and his life is in you, you are |
| In order to feel that you are worthy of being in | | | | enough. Everyday you take a step to apply this |
| recovery and break the cycle of entering into | | | | truth, you will start to believe it. You may be used to |
| another abusive relationship, learning to sense your | | | | your mood being determined by the response from |
| own value and approving yourself becomes priority. | | | | others, that this step may seem a little |
| How do you learn how to validate yourself? | | | | uncomfortable at first. Whatever you do, just do |
| 1. Detach from needing the approval of others. When | | | | your personal best and know that is all anyone can |
| you concentrate on approving yourself from your | | | | do. |
| own set of guidelines, you will be able to see and | | | | If you apply these three steps in your life |
| praise your own progress of recovery. It gives you a | | | | consistently at your own pace of validating and |
| great sense of hope and confidence that you took a | | | | approving yourself, you will be on your way to living |
| step to do something differently. | | | | the life of your dreams. |
| 2. Baby steps, Baby Steps. Okay Ladies, let's have | | | | You are a Bold Woman Worthy of the Life you want |
| fun with this one. Is it hard for you to feel a sense | | | | to live! |