Signs of Domestic Abuse - 3 Deadly Mistakes of Not Believing What You See the First Time

"If someone shows you who they are, believe themon" and compensate for that which is not.
the first time." Sounds so sensible, doesn't it?2) You think that what you have witnessed and
If this bit of common sense were practiced moreexperienced with this new partner is your "faulty
often by women and men before their abusivetake" (inaccurate perception) on the matter. In other
relationship fully establishes, then there would be farwords, it's your perception driven by your own
less intimate partner violence.problems. Inherent in this is your distrust in yourself
Why do people choose not to factor in truthsand your inner knowing.
already revealed? Why do people turn their head and3) You think that, even if you spot something that's
look the other way? Why do people say tojust not right, you can change it or get your desired
themselves, what is isn't?partner to change it. This is a very dangerous
If you have ever been in an abusive relationship or ifexpectation. It's a setup for you to become
you are standing in the path of one developing, thisresponsible for another person's behavior. It's an
article is for you.invitation to live in another person's business. And, as
Let's take a look at the underlying psychologyyou probably know, when you're in someone else's
between you and the reality of your circumstances.business, who then is available to take care of yours?
1) You so want it to be as you fantasize it to be,No one.
more than anything else. So you may minimize"If someone shows you who they are, believe them
behaviors that, under different circumstances, arethe first time." These simple little words could save
obvious red flags. And to help you with this mindyou from the nightmare of domestic violence, if you
game with yourself, you embellish that which is "rightknow the signs of domestic abuse.