| The answer is no. | | | | generally know when they want to move on - deep |
| If you are a victim of domestic violence or domestic | | | | down. There are many reasons for staying together, |
| abuse in all its forms you must end your relationship, | | | | and one of them is that you don't know how to go. |
| and move on. You deserve the opportunity to create | | | | Trying to salvage a relationship is a common mistake. |
| the life you deserve. | | | | The idea of salvage is promoted by the society that |
| You may think you are all alone and without hope - | | | | created the union. Married people are given a lot of |
| without a chance - but you're not. There are people | | | | encouragement to salvage relationships - especially |
| and organisations that can help you. | | | | where there are children involved. Even unmarried |
| Don't ask yourself how you will "survive" a break-up. | | | | partners with no children are encouraged to maintain |
| You shouldn't think of yourself as a victim of a | | | | the status quo, unless there are obvious reasons for |
| relationship breakdown - you are possibly the victim | | | | not doing so. |
| in a relationship not of its breakdown. When you are | | | | In most cases, trying to salvage the relationship |
| free from a destructive relationship you are | | | | merely perpetuates the misery. And that goes for |
| emancipated. You should rejoice and appreciate your | | | | the children too. A relationship should not be salvaged |
| new lifestyle with new and exciting challenges ahead. | | | | just because one partner professes that they will be |
| Don't think about trying to salvage a violent | | | | ruined by separation. Or one partner professes that |
| relationship. If you a suffering from domestic abuse | | | | the family will be split apart and the children |
| then I don't believe that the relationship should | | | | traumatised forever. Or one partner insists that "they |
| continue. Evidence suggests that an abusive partner | | | | can work it out", "they will change", or "they will |
| will never change - even after acknowledging their | | | | never do it again." |
| abusive behaviour (always a vital step) - or even | | | | Some relationships are salvageable. One can imagine |
| after therapy. Most abusers return to abuse after | | | | that the immaturity of heart and emotion could lead |
| remorse spells an interval. | | | | to misunderstandings causing premature break-ups. |
| If you feel that your relationship can be salvaged | | | | But these are just tiffs blown out of all proportion. |
| then think again. Get to the stage where you are | | | | We are talking about people who recognise a real |
| prepared to leave and move on. | | | | dissatisfaction with their lives. And these people |
| You will find it difficult if your partner is exercising | | | | recognise that this dissatisfaction stems from a lack |
| some sort of control. This control may be emotional - | | | | of fulfilment in their relationship. |
| or as mentioned above, more physical. People | | | | Ask yourself: This relationship, is it worth saving? |