| No matter how hard it may be to lose your ex to | | | | good relationship then she will be keen to listen to |
| another it is even more painful when they are | | | | you. If you were not the most stellar boyfriend do |
| involved in an abusive situation and you are not sure | | | | whatever you can to show her you turned over a |
| how to rescue them. Not only are you longer the | | | | new leaf. Once she perceives she can lean on you |
| center of their life but the person they are with are | | | | she will be ready to heed your advice. Show her |
| just plain bad news. No one deserves to be treated | | | | through your actions that she deserves kind |
| carelessly. | | | | treatment. Abusive people depend on belittling others |
| Even if your primary goal is not to get your ex back | | | | and she may have come to believe she deserves |
| you certainly don't want to see them involved in a | | | | unfair treatment. Remember her self esteem has |
| demoralizing relationship. Don't just set back judging | | | | suffered because of being mistreated. |
| her poor choice, decide to do something about it. | | | | Even if you have no romantic concerns for her, just |
| You need to make sure she understands she | | | | for old time's sake she deserves better treatment. |
| deserves better from someone, especially someone | | | | Showing her that she needs rescuing with no strings |
| that she professes to love. Convincing her that you | | | | attached will help put her mind at ease. If you do still |
| are only looking out for her with no alternative | | | | have feelings for her keep those in confidence as |
| motives may proof a little tricky. Be sure you are not | | | | you may only make things worse for her. Often the |
| doing it for you own selfish gain. No matter the | | | | abusive person will become very possessive and may |
| reasons, the bottom line is she needs some help. | | | | hurt her even further. Their jealous streaks run long |
| Often people involved in these type of relationships | | | | and deep. It they sense a lack of control they may |
| really don't want to be rescued and see it as their | | | | spiral into more dangerous behavior patterns. |
| due. However if the relationship appears to be one in | | | | Above all else value her safety first. She is in trouble |
| which she could be physically in danger you need to | | | | and needs your help. Don't turn away from her. Sure |
| do all within your power to make her understand this. | | | | things could get ugly but you need to step up to the |
| Sometimes people fall into a pattern of accepting | | | | plate. |
| abusive behavior. You may just prove to be a safe | | | | Not only is there a chance you may get her back, |
| haven for her should she ever need one. Let her | | | | you may even save her life. |
| know you can be trusted. If in the past you had a | | | | |