| Domestic violence does not occur in a vacuum. There | | | | often the first signs of trouble. He may demand that |
| are warning signs that should serve as red flags that | | | | you quit clubs or activities claiming that he wants you |
| an abusive relationship is developing. Every abusive | | | | home with him. He may express suspicion about your |
| relationship begins with a 'honeymoon period' where | | | | relationship with the kid's soccer coach. These |
| the abusive partner can seem exciting, loving and | | | | demands and suspicions can grow more and more |
| even tender. In this abusive relationships are just like | | | | invidious until the situation explodes into full scale |
| all other relationships - the excitement of the new, | | | | domestic violence. |
| the delight in getting to know someone new, the | | | | Recognizing the red flags of spousal abuse can be |
| shared interests. In cases of spousal abuse, however, | | | | hard for the victim because she wants to buy into |
| the relationship turns sour at some point and before | | | | the lie - he says he wants to spend more time with |
| long partner battering has replaced nights on the | | | | you - that's a good thing right? In addition jealousy |
| town. Although many victims claim they never saw | | | | and possessiveness can be flattering. But when mild |
| the abuse coming, there are signs, red flag behaviors | | | | jealousy becomes severe and leads to threats, verbal |
| to be on the watch for. | | | | abuse and controlling behavior things spiral quickly out |
| Partner battering is, in the end run, a controlling | | | | of control. The key is to recognize when jealous |
| behavior born out of severe insecurity. Before he | | | | behaviors are abnormal. Everyone feels jealousy |
| begins using his fists he will telegraph his intentions | | | | every now and then, but when unreasonable |
| with milder, but just as abusive, forms of control. | | | | demands accompany those feelings the stage is |
| Creating isolation and expressions of jealousy are | | | | being set for domestic violence. |