Recovering From an Emotionally Abusive Relationship - 3 Steps to Success, Part 2

An emotionally and psychologically abusive relationshipwere true.
can be a very difficult type of relationship to leave.2. Practice acts of random kindness -- to yourself.
The abuse leaves you feeling inferior, unlovable,Make a list of small but enjoyable activities or treats.
unsure if you can make it on your own, and fearfulEach day, make it a point to do one of those things
of the unknown. It is important to take steps toon your list. When you have exhausted the list,
prevent or reduce the likelihood of returning to thecreate a new one.
abuser. Along with addressing your physical recovery3. Limit your contact with your abuser whenever
and optimizing your wellness and healthy lifestyle,possible. No contact is best. If you must maintain
there are additional steps to take to mentally andsome contact because of children, refuse to discuss
emotionally support the recovery process:the relationship or engage on a personal level other
1. Have the support of others around you. Find athan what is necessary to schedule and manage the
counselor who specializes in domestic violence andkids. Ignore text messages, emails, or phone calls
abuse issues to help you maintain perspectivethat are not about the children. You are not required
throughout your recovery process. In addition, spendto respond to anything personal. Think of your
as much time as you can with trusted friends andabuser like a drug. He or she is very harmful, but the
family. Right now, what you need are the correctpatterns that you have developed with this person
messages about yourself, and these will come fromcan be as compelling as an addiction. Pay attention to
your loved ones. You are counterprogramming theyour feelings after an interaction with your abuser. If
negative, controlling and abusive statements youryou feel hopeless, inferior, demoralized, or anxious,
emotional abuser spent his or her time convincing youyou engaged too much with him or her.