| #ffffff;" /> | | | | The Rekindled Longings for the Alienated Parent |
| It’s been seven years since he/she has had | | | | The estranged parent, while alienated by the other |
| contact with his/her child. And this child is turning 18 | | | | parent and all others involved, remains a mystery to |
| years old next year. Those forgotten longings and | | | | the child...even for the child who joins in on the |
| rights start stirring again. | | | | alienation. On that 17th birthday they, too, are mindful |
| I hear this story routinely and recognize a pattern in | | | | of being months away from having their say. |
| these parents who have been tossed aside as | | | | We see adolescents polluted with propaganda so |
| though they were tissue that no longer matters. The | | | | thick that you could hardly recognize the person |
| fact is that they continue to matter long after they | | | | they’re referring to when they speak of the |
| have been cast away. | | | | alienated parent. And even these kids wonder, who |
| The Rekindled Longing for Your Stolen Child | | | | where is my birth mother, or as the case may be, |
| There is something about that 17th birthday that | | | | my birth father? |
| starts the itch again. It’s just so close to 18 | | | | It’s only natural to want to know your |
| and the clocks tick gets louder and louder. With each | | | | natural parent, whether estranged or not. Even |
| passing day, your child is closer and closer to having | | | | children placed in the hands of an adopted parent at |
| his/her own say. | | | | birth have longings to know who their natural parents |
| The reality of that is much different than when this | | | | are. |
| same child was 13 or even 15 years old. | | | | It’s a child’s birthright to have contact |
| There’s realness to manifesting that | | | | with the people that inspired their life. And from the |
| possibility when you are counting months, rather than | | | | core of their being, they know this. The longings they |
| years. | | | | feel in this regard make this critical window ripe for |
| You wake up and remember that three-year-old face | | | | rekindling their relationship with you and yours with |
| and the sound of his/her voice. And you still | | | | them. |
| can’t comprehend how you ended up with | | | | The Choice of Parental Alienation or Not |
| the empty stick on visitation after your divorce. None | | | | This timely window offers both you and your child a |
| of it makes any sense to you. In many respects, | | | | choice. It’s the choice to maintain or shatter |
| it’s a faint nightmare you have chosen to | | | | the parental alienation. It is the opportunity to satisfy |
| bury so you could go on with paying your bills and | | | | those dormant longings and inevitable human rights |
| maintaining order in your day. | | | | that you both have...no matter how either of you |
| But none of this makes the longings go | | | | were cast away. |
| away…at least not permanently. And the | | | | If you are an alienated parent and wish to have |
| rights you have to know your flesh and blood remain | | | | contact with your natural soon-to-be adult child, see |
| in your DNA. | | | | this passage as a new beginning. |