October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month - 7 Ways You Can Make a Difference

You may have heard a story about domesticdeceased? What about workshops and seminars?
violence, been a victim yourself or just don'tAre there any advertisements, public service
understand why women stay, whatever your reasonannouncements, fliers, or some other literature readily
for being interested in Domestic Violence Awareness,available and widely seen in your neighborhood to call
you are at least making an attempt to educateattention to the problem.
yourself and possibly help someone else and that's allFourth, find out from local police how they respond
anyone who once was a victim and those who areto domestic violence calls and what you should do if
now deceased would want, but for those peopleyou hear or witness someone being abused.
who want to do more, the following are tips to helpFifth, create a list of ways you may be able to let
you get started.people know about domestic violence. You may want
First, conduct research about domestic violence. Youto distribute information and trinkets with a hotline
should be able to answer some of the why, how,number and/or create a fund-raiser and give the
when, what, and who questions related to theproceeds to a local women's shelter. Take out ad
subject. Also, read about others' plights. Even thoughspace in your local newspaper. If you are affiliated
many of the stories have similar patterns, there iswith a church, find out how leadership handles
always something new in each that may stimulatedomestic violence cases and offer to speak about
thoughts of " I never knew that."the issue. You can also work with schools and local
Second, be sure that you are sincerely empatheticcolleges to appear as a guest speaker.
and not judgmental about those who have been inSixth, pen your experience in a form of a book or
violent relationships. You will know if you haverecord your story on audio. Let people know how
resolved your own issues about women who stay,you overcame your own situation. Then offer your
by how you react when listening to their stories. Ifbook or audio to individuals or organizations who
you find that you are pushing down negative feelingsmight be interested in your subject matter. A local
and trying hard to refrain from making harshtheater may be interested in performing your life
comments, then it would be best that you don'tstory in play form.
attend any events or visit places where people areLastly, be a good listener. Know what to say and
sharing their traumatic ordeals until you can get ahow to say it when someone shares details of their
command over your own feelings. The last thing thatlife. Be ready to provide advice. You can obtain
any victim or survivor wants is another person tellinginformation from any women's shelter or simply type
them "how stupid" he or she is for staying.in "domestic violence" along with your state's name in
Third, conduct research in your community ofyour search engine window. A list of organizations are
existing events about domestic violence awareness.already established with free information to help you.
Are there any groups hosting a vigil for the