| So often in a new relationship we learn the dynamic | | | | away from your partner when they make another |
| of the new relationship. This includes how you react | | | | remark that you find hurtful. You can ignore your |
| together as a couple, with each other, and in group | | | | partner when they elect to behave that way. Tell |
| settlings. Backgrounds are very different and as our | | | | your partner that behavior like that is unacceptable, |
| techniques in dealing and interacting with other | | | | and you will walk away, or leave when they choose |
| people. One thing you need to be on the look out for | | | | to act like that. If your partner does not respond and |
| is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse always takes place | | | | change in a positive way, you need to keep in mind |
| before physical abuse does. Knowing what the signs | | | | that if you are just dating, that future treatment can |
| of verbal abuse are as well as being able to stop that | | | | be worse. |
| treatment early on is key in a relationship. | | | | Verbal abuse can and does often get worse. Verbal |
| Verbal abuse happens in many different ways. | | | | abuse is always a precursor to physical abuse. Keep |
| Examples of verbal abuse are putting someone | | | | in mind if your partner was just not taught well as a |
| down, such as calling them fat, or ugly. Other | | | | child, and making hurtful jokes may have been part |
| examples are if your significant other willfully ignores | | | | of their norm growing up. While that may be why |
| you, or otherwise controls contact with them. Easier | | | | they do it, it does not have remain a reason for that |
| examples are if your partner jokingly says something | | | | type of behavior. Once you tell your partner what |
| like your stupid, or you can't do that you don't have | | | | they do hurts you, they are obligated to cease this |
| enough smarts, or similar remarks. These aren't the | | | | behavior. |
| only ways to verbally abuse someone. The key is, if | | | | While dating someone watch how you are treated, |
| it hurts your feelings, the act is something that needs | | | | and also watch how you treat someone else. You do |
| to be addressed. | | | | not want to sabotage a potential significant |
| You owe yourself and the relationship you are in to | | | | relationship due to bad habits of either party. They |
| be honest about your feelings. You need to address | | | | key is recognizing when verbal abuse happens, talking |
| your partner when they make comments like these. | | | | honestly with your partner about the actions that |
| You can do so, by saying something like when you | | | | have occurred, and then noting the changes. You |
| call me stupid it hurts my feelings. Then do not | | | | may have to cease contact with the partner by |
| accept an answer from your partner such that they | | | | walking away, not seeing your partner for awhile to |
| were joking. It is not acceptable to joke with | | | | help get your point across. If the behavior does not |
| someone in that manner, especially someone that | | | | change, it is time for serious reflection regarding that |
| you love and adore. You need to tell your partner | | | | relationship. You deserve a relationship free of verbal |
| that behavior is not tolerable and it will not be | | | | abuse, and it is up to you to recognize it, and see |
| accepted. | | | | that it stops, either by helping to change that |
| If your partner continues to act like this, you need to | | | | behavior or leaving the relationship. |
| decide what you will do. You can decide to walk | | | | |