| It happens to all of us at some point - just when we | | | | in a conversation or even via an online chat, ask if he |
| think everything in our relationship is going great, we | | | | has time for the call or chat. Ask if there's a better |
| get a blindside heave ho. We ask, why? And the | | | | time. |
| answer double blindsides us: Because he wants more | | | | Maintain a positive space. When contact is resumed, |
| space. You say, Huh? My Boyfriend wants more | | | | keep everything positive. No need to bring up any |
| space? What the heck? Is he for real? | | | | negatives. In fact, let him know, that you appreciate |
| Okay, let's dissect that. My boyfriend "wants more | | | | his stance and his decision because it taught you a lot |
| space." What exactly does that mean? What is his | | | | about his needs as well as your own. Thank him for |
| "space"? How would I know if I was in his space so | | | | what he did. It will blow him away. |
| that I could get out of his space? What the heck? | | | | Let him close the space. Let him set the boundaries |
| You have to admit, this notion of "wanting space" | | | | for future contacts. By taking a passive approach to |
| can be a bit aggravating. Of course he should have | | | | resuming contact with him, you are demonstrating |
| his space, just as we all need our space. So give it to | | | | that you respect his need for space and that you |
| him. | | | | are not in any desperate state of need for his |
| If you still love your ex boyfriend, and you want to | | | | contact. Both will work to your advantage. |
| get him back, then you certainly should give him his | | | | Change his space. Actually, you'll want to change his |
| "space". And, while you are doing that, you can do | | | | perspective of space. That is, the further away you |
| some things that might influence his whole | | | | remain, the less he will like his space. By staying low, |
| perspective so that, he'll miss having you in his space. | | | | maintaining your confidence and dignity, and |
| Keep your wits and your confidence about you. You | | | | respecting his space, his whole perspective of you will |
| know that it his loss more than it is yours. You may | | | | change and, suddenly, his need for space will change. |
| still want him, but be willing to walk away with your | | | | Truly, it's tough to tell what really goes on in their |
| head held high. | | | | minds when they say, "I want more space". Maybe |
| Follow the no contact rule. Even if you get some | | | | they just want a break from the relationship. Maybe |
| slight signals that he may want to talk with you, | | | | you have become too clingy or in his face on some |
| avoid it. Stay away from contact for a while. It's | | | | things. What I have learned is that guys just want to |
| good to let things simmer while letting him know | | | | be understood. They want to be appreciated. And |
| you're going to do everything you can to "respect his | | | | they want some empathy. If you can throw a pinch |
| space". | | | | of those things his way regularly, this "I need more |
| Learn his space. If any contact is made, demonstrate | | | | space" thing will likely go away forever. It's not |
| your new found respect for his space. Several times | | | | always as easy as that, however. |