| Low self esteem is an affliction that impacts a large | | | | victim. An abuser will do everything feasible to |
| number of people at some point in their lives. It | | | | undermine a victim's sense of self worth, esteem, |
| causes attractive, successful, smart people to doubt | | | | competence, and mental health. Without positive self |
| their self worth and purpose for living. It prevents | | | | worth, the abused partner buys into the abuser's |
| individuals from reaching full potential, and might even | | | | words, further diminishing his or her esteem and self |
| cause individuals to plummet into a depression. | | | | belief. |
| Relationships can go either way, either supporting or | | | | One sure solution to the problem of emotional abuse |
| lowering our self esteem. Unfortunately, if we are | | | | is to get away from the source of the emotional |
| already suffering from low self esteem, we are even | | | | abuse. If self worth and value is being created or |
| more likely to choose a relationship where we are | | | | rebuilt, negative influences must be minimized |
| treated poorly. Those who don't feel valuable | | | | whenever possible. To be strong enough to resist an |
| themselves tend to attract and be attracted to | | | | attempted abuser, the victim needs to gain strength. |
| those who are disrespectful and unloving. Some of | | | | It can be much easier to follow through with a |
| these types of relationships can be outright abusive. | | | | decision to get away from an emotionally abusive |
| It is a serious problem that there is programming | | | | relationship if you are around the people who love |
| occurring in these negative relationships. A person | | | | you and can support you through the process. It is |
| who is emotionally abusive is holding to a personal | | | | likely you will struggle and have second thoughts |
| agenda of control. Already suffering from low self | | | | about leaving the relationship, but don't let insecurities |
| esteem, the victim of emotional abuse is likely to | | | | prevent you from doing what you believe to be right |
| believe the criticisms of the abuser and assume that | | | | for you. Allow your loved ones to give you positive |
| the abuser is correct, that the victim is the problem. | | | | affirmation, and work on taking in these messages to |
| An abuser seeks to create a reality about his or her | | | | overcome the prior programming of your abuser. |