| Low self esteem is an affliction that impacts a large | | | | their agenda of control. Thus, an abuser will do what |
| number of people at some point in their lives. It | | | | he or she can to undermine the other's sense of their |
| causes beautiful, successful, intelligent people to | | | | own judgment, skill, and even moral decency. |
| doubt their self worth and purpose for being. It | | | | Without good self esteem, the abused partner |
| prevents individuals from reaching the true heights of | | | | assimilates this programming, further diminishing his or |
| their potential, and worst of all, keeps many in a | | | | her feelings of self worth. |
| state of depression and sadness that is unshakeable. | | | | The best strategy to counteract the negative |
| Our relationships can either support or lower our self | | | | effects of such a psychologically abusive relationship |
| esteem. Sadly, for many with low self esteem, their | | | | is removal from the source. While self esteem is |
| relationships can cause a negative snowballing effect. | | | | created and rebuilt, all negative influences must be |
| Those who don't value themselves tend to attract | | | | removed. To conjure an image to illustrate the point, |
| and be attracted to those who will not treat them | | | | before a dam can hold back the water again, the |
| with respect and love. Some of these relationships | | | | holes must be repaired and filled. |
| are outright abusive. | | | | The strength to follow through with a period of |
| The underlying problem with such negative | | | | reduced, or no contact can be increased through |
| relationships is that there is programming occurring. A | | | | reprogramming the false set of beliefs the abuser |
| person who is psychologically abusive has an agenda, | | | | has pushed upon you. One of the most important |
| and part of that agenda is controlling the other | | | | methods of reprogramming yourself is to spend time |
| partner. Already suffering from low self esteem, the | | | | with and around the people in your life who are |
| non-abusive partner is a prime candidate for the | | | | trustworthy, kind, and concerned for your well being |
| emotional and mental manipulation handed out by the | | | | above all else. It is likely that the stronger and more |
| abusive partner. | | | | positive your sense of self becomes, the less you will |
| An abuser seeks to create a reality and a perception | | | | desire contact with your psychological abuser. |
| by the other partner which removes resistance to | | | | |