Life Success Strategies

Why?  Many people ask "Why" in the aftermath ofWhat is even more alarming is that so many young
any tragedy. An appropriate question...but,children have so much access to all this violence.
unfortunately, there are no very good answers.What are we telling our children about violence and
There are, however, are few considerations for all oflife? What are we teaching them about coping with
us to examine.life and feelings? What seeds are we planting for
We have become a violent culture and this violencefuture generations?
has occurred very subtly. Via movies and TV shows,I have family in Sweden and when I have been there
through the internet, computer and videogames, andI have noticed they have far less violence on their
of course through the media's "live" coverage oftelevision shows. Interestingly enough they also have
wars. I don't believe a day goes by in our cultureamazingly low murder and assault rates. I have to
without a major emphasis on violence.believe there is some correlation there.
Does this explain why a tragedy happens? No, notAgain, I am not saying that this explains what
entirely, but if we do not do change our values abouthappens when tragedies occur, but I am saying we
violence we will likely see more and more of theseneed to wake up and adjust our values around
occurrences, as we have already witnessed tooviolence. If we do not make changes and we allow all
many similar scenarios.this violence to continue to grow as part of our
What is this attraction we have with violence? Whycultural "pastime" we will surely reap some very
do we turn to it so easily and readily? And why havenegative consequences in the future.
we become so numb to it?This all starts with you and me.
I have only one answer: We use it as a way to• Will you refuse to watch TV shows that are
escape. Yes, as odd as it sounds, we use violence asviolent?
a coping mechanism for life.• Will you contact the sponsors of these shows
When you watch intensely violent scenes there are aand boycott their products if they continue to
number of chemical reactions that occur in your body.sponsor violence?
These neurotransmitter and hormonal reactions inside• Will you refuse to purchase video games that
you all mix together to create an internal "cocktail"are violent?
that actually gets you high very similar to the ways• Will you refuse to go to movies which have
drugs would get someone high.violence as their primary theme?
The difference, however, is that you never ingested• Will you request that all the major networks and
anything and because all this violence is so commonnewspapers decrease the amount of emphasis put
place, you may think of it as being "normal" andon violence?
therefore not even notice that you shifted yourIf you don't do this, who will?
mood. Most people are not even aware that• Will you instead surround yourself with games,
subjecting themselves to violence is actually creatingshows and media which embrace life and stimulates
an altered state of consciousness.thinking and creativity?
Simply put, subjecting ourselves to violence changes• Will you practice mediation and other "peaceful"
the way we feel and this change allows us to escapeactivities to calm yourself?
from life temporarily. This is NO different than what a• Will you commit to be more in touch with how
drug addict does. ALL addiction is driven by theyou feel so you will be less likely to go on "auto-pilot"
desire to NOT feel.and disconnect from your feelings unconsciously?
As weird and far-out as it may sound, we areThe choice is ours to make...what will you choose?
becoming addicted to violence.