Keys to Finding Happiness in an Unhappy Marriage

Finding happiness in an unhappy marriage requires that1-800-799-SAFE.
we first understand the nature and priorities of ourAssuming that your marriage is not an abusive one,
marriage. We must then grasp the definition and truethen you need to renew your commitment to your
understanding of marriage, and finally determine tohusband or wife and ask God's help to repair it.
seek out the keys to happiness and fulfillment. Let'sNote that renewing your commitment is more than
take each step in turn.just saying "I'm not going anywhere." Refusing to
1. What is the Nature of Marriage?divorce is not the same as committing to your
According to the Bible, marriage is an institutionmarriage. You need to love your spouse and do
ordained by God. It is the union between one maneverything you can to bring healing and romance into
and one woman, and it is to be for life. Such anyour relationship.
institution requires love, commitment, and patience.3. How to Seek Out the Keys to Happiness?
Further, the prophet Malachi makes clear that GodRenewing your commitment to your marriage doesn't
"hates divorce" (Malachi 2:16). Clearly, God is formean that you must consign yourself to misery or
marriage and against divorce. This speaks to theunhappiness. Jesus wants you to live an "abundant"
nature of marriage. It is a commitment -- and onelife and He wants your marriage to be fulfilling.
that should not be broken.However, to achieve happiness, we must do our
2. What Should Our Priorities be to our Marriage?part. Happiness is ultimately a choice and not a feeling.
If marriage is based on commitment, then what isThe same is true for love. You must choose to be
the level of yours?happy, and then you must seek out happiness with a
Now, first, let me say that the Bible does makebiblical focus and game plan.
allowance for self-defense. If you are in the midst ofThere are plenty of resources available to help you
a dangerous and abusive relationship, you need torebuild your marriage and restore the happiness you
protect yourself and your children - and get out.want and deserve. Seek out solid, biblically-based
Defend yourself by removing yourself from thatcounsel and assistance - and start taking action
situation and getting the help that you need. You cantoday.
call the National Domestic Violence hotline at