How To Trust Again - Rebuilding Trust in Yourself After Emotional Verbal Abuse

You may remember this hit single "War" from thetrust too much and pain was the result? Now you
1970s with a little twist on the words.may have built up a wall closing off any possibility of
Trust! Huh! Yeah!trusting again. Protecting yourself from pain seems
What is it good for?better than risking hurt.
Absolutely nothin'! Say it againThen I discovered the truth that I want to share
This song came to mind when I thought about thewith you today.
word trust.Your perception of trust wasn't broken.
Soon after coming out of an abusive marriage, ILove for yourself was broken.
would be asked if I was dating again. I looked at thatYou trusted more in the other person rather than
person as if they asked me to swallow a cup of liveyour gut feelings. Each time you quieted the whisper
bees.of God in your soul that something was wrong, a
How could I date again when I can't trust my ownpart of your sense of self died.
judgment?Your need of approval overshadowed loving yourself.
Have you been there in your own life?When you love yourself, trusting your decisions
During my recovery from verbal abuse, I was on abecome easier.
mission to rebuild my self esteem. Every book IYou can trust yourself. It's not too late. Why?
picked up talked about this foreign concept calledBecause you are worthy of what you desire in life.
trust.Every decision you make is part of the process of
And how trust is so important to the healing process.building your muscles of trust. Just as lack of exercise
;You just have to trust yourself." was the phrase Ican lead to weaker muscles, years of negative
kept reading. My eyes would suddenly glaze over. Allwords and doubt, led to weaker trust muscles.
of a sudden I would hear the teacher on CharlieIt;s time for a trust building workout.
Brown talking "Wha ,wha, wha..." It just didn'tThis week consider making decisions and trusting
compute. How do you trust yourself?your intentions rather than looking for a specific
Can you identify with this?result. Many times we do things in order to get a
Let me see if I understand this correctly.This bookresult we have in mind.
wants me to trust myself after I trusted an abusiveAnd when the result isn't what you wanted, you tell
person to love me. I trusted myself over and overyourself that you "should" not have trusted yourself
again. The result: my mate verbally assaulted me andin the first place.
apologized on a daily basis. It seems as thoughStart small and concentrate on the intention. God
trusting myself got me into this mess in the firstknows your heart. He applauds your effort. Will you
place.start to applaud your effort today? You deserve it.
How about you? In your abusive relationship, did you