| People are just different in many aspects. If there | | | | discouraged and anxious as a result of the message |
| are the silent types, there are also the loud ones | | | | thrown at his person. But this shouldn't be so if only |
| who can be very verbal about what they think and | | | | the receiver of the verbal abuse finds a way not to |
| feel. But as they say, opposites attract the reason | | | | be affected by the spouse. Marriage and family |
| why some individuals with an introvert personality | | | | therapists may suggest getting the courage to stop |
| end up marrying their exact opposite who are more | | | | yourself from internalizing the message and |
| inclined to talking. | | | | considering it as part of the person or the abuser, |
| It is alright to be express one's thoughts and feelings | | | | you will find it easier to handle the situation. |
| to your spouse. Communication is always essential in | | | | A spouse doesn't have to feel and take seriously |
| establishing a good relationship and maintaining it for | | | | what the unpleasant words the other partner said. |
| the long term more so in marriage. Marriage and | | | | Do understand that there are just people who |
| family therapists often point out the importance of | | | | sometimes play up their emotions when they're |
| discussing issues together to avoid conflicts in the | | | | angered. They don't know what they're saying and |
| relationship. | | | | they can only stop if you show that you're not |
| But marriage is not made in heaven and | | | | affected. It's true that words can be painful at time |
| disagreements can take place every now and then. | | | | but when you know you did nothing wrong, you can |
| The problem is when these misunderstandings go out | | | | walk away unaffected by those negative message. |
| of hand and one spouse is overcome by his negative | | | | If you are in this situation too often, though, seeking |
| emotions. This can lead to bouts of shouting and | | | | the help of marriage and family therapists may be |
| blaming and who knows, violent reactions that results | | | | the right step to take. After all, it's your own welfare |
| in physical injury. | | | | that you're after and you wouldn't want to be worn |
| A person who cannot control his negative emotions | | | | down by all the negativity that's surrounding your |
| may either just throw unpleasant words towards the | | | | marriage. You would take this option if you love your |
| other partner. If this happens often, the receiver can | | | | spouse and you want him or her to correct the |
| become a victim of verbal abuse. If the wife happens | | | | abusive behavior. |
| to be the receiver which is often the reality, it can | | | | Your counselor may ask you about your spouse's |
| put a lot of stress on her physical and emotional well | | | | history and advice you on what proper actions to |
| being. | | | | take to tame the other half. Keep in mind that you |
| The spouse who has a tendency to become a verbal | | | | need not seek a third party when the problem has |
| abuser may suffer from insecurity. It is just that he | | | | gotten worse because you can always ask for |
| or she may not realize it. | | | | advice as early as you think necessary. |
| It's totally understandable for the victim to feel | | | | |