| Living within the hell that is called an abusive | | | | safety which is important and not to save you. |
| relationship is sometimes unbearable. Most people that | | | | 4) Confide in one of your friends about your plans, |
| aren't involved in one have a lack of understanding of | | | | who might help you to get away from the abusive |
| what it's like. It is very easy for people to say, why | | | | relationship, but do not turn to relative or mutual |
| doesn't she leave for good? What is it that is holding | | | | friends. |
| her back to bear such humiliation? But they barely | | | | 5) Carry only those things which are of prime |
| realize the barriers that stop these women to leave | | | | importance and which would be useful. |
| which could be financial, emotional and psychological. | | | | 6) Have a bag packed with some of your clothes |
| These women, who have been going through the | | | | and your children's and keep it in one of your most |
| abuses, need to be encouraged to muster up their | | | | trusted friend's house to carry it with you. |
| courage to take the extreme step for their well | | | | 7) Also do not forget to carry along important |
| being. | | | | documents such as your driving license, passport, ID |
| However, once you have made up your mind to | | | | cards, credit cards, bank cheque books, legal |
| leave the liaison, do not hold back your intentions, for | | | | documents of your children as well. |
| you do not deserve to be abused for no fault of | | | | 8) Most important of all, do not forget to take the |
| yours. Make a proper plan before you leave. And | | | | phone numbers of your close friends, relatives, family |
| keep the following things in mind while planning your | | | | doctor, schools etc. |
| strategy: | | | | When ending an abusive relationship, take threats |
| 1) Make a financial plan, for once you leave you will | | | | seriously, contact law enforcement and get a |
| have to face all the hardships and to survive, you will | | | | restraining order. Once you cope up with the fear |
| need money. Save every cent that you probably can | | | | and get out of it, you are on your way to a new |
| and hide it, where your abusive spouse will not have | | | | lease of life and a step towards your freedom. |
| access to it. | | | | Leaving an abusive person is far much healthier than |
| 2) If you plan to sneak out in your spouse's absence, | | | | living with them. When you have all the ways and |
| then be prepared and make a full proof plan. | | | | reasons to leave and start your life afresh, why |
| 3) Arrange a place where your children could find | | | | surrender to the jaws of death, when you still want |
| themselves safe. Convince them that it is their | | | | to live. |