| Verbal abuse is not always the obvious loud and | | | | It is oh so easy to just pretend nothing is going |
| shouting kind, with clearly meant open mean and | | | | wrong at all. Verbal abusers are often the quiet ones. |
| cruel insults being made. Verbal abuse can also be | | | | The ones you would never think would do anything |
| more subtle. The type that takes its tool over a | | | | like this. Charming in public yet frightful at home. The |
| period of time that gradually builds up the pressure | | | | dream couple on the outside but far front it on the |
| until your self esteem crumbles. You may hear | | | | inside. The problem with this subtle verbal abuse is |
| shouting from your neighbours, things like "every day | | | | that your inner critic starts belief the reaffirmed daily |
| for two years you have just keep going on about | | | | verbal abuse. Inside you believe it to be true so start |
| the same thing". | | | | acting in the manner the abuser is telling you. The |
| This doesn't create visible bruises or black eyes, it | | | | more control is surrender and the stronger the feeling |
| eats away at your core until your lose your identity | | | | of worthlessness, incompetence and lack of self |
| and control of your life. This creates a further | | | | belief. |
| problem that as no one can see it, you become to | | | | The worst thing about it all, is the abuse is just |
| embarrassed or ashamed to say anything. You keep | | | | placing their own insecurities on to you. They are |
| it to yourself, bottling it all up. Or you are doing is | | | | giving you their baggage so they don't think they are |
| adding power to the abuser strength and control | | | | carrying it. The moment you refuse to carry it, the |
| they have over you. The scars begin to run deeper. | | | | moment you will regain some self esteem. |