How Emotional Abuse Can Effect Self Esteem

When ever someone has low self-esteem, they areabusive to the students. The consequences was that
either depressed or feel inferior to the people aroundbuying intimidating her students, he eventually one of
them. In order to feel better about themselves, onethe students grabbed her and started to choke her.
will constantly made negative remarks to the peopleAccording to the teacher the student was in the
around them, especially their siblings because it giveswrong classroom, but if she had not provoked the
them power. This is mother's day and we arestudent he would never have attacked her.
supposed to talk about all the good things ourThen too what if the child is disabled and the parent
mother did for us when we were children. But howis constantly giving them negative feedback, such as
would you feel about a mother who constantlywhat was stated above. Since the parent never
emotionally abused you simply because that's thefollowed through with anything they promised, the
only way she knew how to talk, and also becausechild learned that if they throw a temper tantrum
she grew up in a hostile environment and liked tothey can get what they want. Then as a college
create hostility around her.student, when ever she wanted her way she would
There are many criminals who committed crimes asthrow a temper tantrum. Especially when she wanted
teenagers and adults simply because of the emotionalto go to a school with hearing students, especially
abuse they experienced as children. No one likes tosince she wanted to distance herself from other deaf
feel inferior to the people around them, so they learnpeople, so she could be none a there was anything
to eat eventually act out, by exhibiting inappropriatewrong with her. She also learned that to get what
behavior. Many adults who grow up in poor home,she wants it as an adult all she has to do is throw a
but have a parent who is very loving and encouragingtemper tantrum. After 20 years, when ever she
to them, then they become successful in anywants something she automatically throws a temper
profession they choose, because they were taughttantrum, even fighting with herself in her sleep.
to believe in themselves. The opposite can happen toNow when the two sisters are around each other,
a child when they become an adult, especially if thewhen one throws a temper tantrum, the other one
parent is constantly telling them:you can't live on yourbecause of her jealousy will start breaking up her
ownyou can't take care of yourselfyou can't hold asisters property, and doesn't see any thing wrong
jobyou can't manage moneyyou are a failuredon'tand how she treats her sister.
feel anythingwhen you lack self-esteem then youThe purpose of this story is to show you how when
buy into all of these negative statements. Inwe lack self-esteem due to emotional abuse as a
psychology there is a technique called Transactionalchild, we often grow up understanding what is
Analysis established by Eric Berne, which says thatappropriate behavior in the home and in the
you will constantly being given the message-- you'reworkplace. We are only products of the home we
not okay.come from, and the only way to change this
As an adult this can seriously damage anybehavior is to recognize it as being inappropriate and
relationships you have as an adult. What happenswilling to seek help to change and build good
when the adult becomes a teacher and they haverelationships within the family. By having good
been allowed to abuse the people around them; as arelationships in the family, then we learn how to have
teacher they abuse their students. For instance, ina good relationships in a marriage and also in the
this story a teacher who came from an abusiveworkplace. If you recognize yourself and your family
home court children with developmental disabilities.relationships in this story be willing to seek help so as
She liked to intimidate her students so she walkedan adult one can build healthy relationships outside of
around with a ruler in her hand and was verballythe home.