| Far too often, we hear individuals in abusive | | | | Thus, I invite you to look within for the revolution. It |
| relationships seeking to change their partners in order | | | | is from here that lasting change occurs. It is truly |
| to change their relationship. While it is true that a | | | | from within. |
| change in either person will change the overall | | | | In closing, I leave you with seven secrets to |
| dynamic of the relationship, changing one's partner is | | | | successful survival in an abusive relationship, during |
| only an option if it is partner self-initiated. | | | | and after should the relationship remain abusive. |
| Rather than holding onto something that is essentially | | | | 1) Write--journal daily both your inner world and your |
| out of one's control-actually not one's business-look | | | | outer world. |
| to changing what is within your control and is indeed | | | | 2) Whole foods--nourish your body with that which is |
| your business: yourself. | | | | truly nourishing. |
| In working with thousands of patients over the | | | | 3) Water--let pure water be your primary beverage |
| years, the one thing I consistently see is that when | | | | and saturate every cell with it. |
| people grow to honor and respect their physical, | | | | 4) Work-out--find a body strengthening and toning |
| emotional, mental and spiritual space they have no | | | | routine and make it a regimen. |
| tolerance for others not doing the same. | | | | 5) The Work--when you feel mental and/or emotional |
| Now as I write this, I'm keenly aware of the hair | | | | distress, open your thoughts to an inquiry until they |
| standing up on end for those that are currently | | | | let go of you and your authentic truth will emerge. |
| struggling in an abusive relationship. Know that I, too, | | | | 6) Welcome--expect the universe and the individuals |
| lived there once and I know that when being | | | | in your world to support, honor and respect you. |
| battered and remaining entangled, on some level we | | | | 7) Wholeness--meditate and know the inner well of |
| are failing to hold reverence for that which our | | | | well-being. How? By cultivating the effortless innocent |
| abusive partner has scorned. | | | | discipline of letting it in. |