| Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse may not heal | | | | the reason why some victims usually end up going |
| by itself over time. Given that its impact targets | | | | back to their abusers. |
| more the psychic areas than the body, you could be | | | | A typical abusive relationship is a cycle: your husband |
| unconsciously scarred for a long period of time. | | | | will blame you for his misfortune, screaming and |
| Because the damage is on the self-esteem and | | | | insulting you even in crowded places and after that, |
| identity areas, healing emotional abuse means healing | | | | seeing your resolve to leave, he will repent and ask |
| primarily both your mind and soul, not your body. | | | | for your forgiveness. This is motivated by his fear, |
| Healing an emotionally abusive relationship can only | | | | once he sees that you are really contemplating |
| take place once you realize that you are indeed in a | | | | leaving him, he will do any promises necessary to |
| power grab, abusive control style of relationship, not | | | | keep you near. |
| an egalitarian one. Prior to this, you need to do the | | | | In the end, you'll find yourself back in his arms, hoping |
| following: | | | | against reason that it won't happen again but it will |
| Accepting the sad reality that you are in an abusive | | | | happen again. Offering understanding and |
| relationship is hard and painful, but necessary. You | | | | comprehension of his abusive behaviors is not the |
| can't continue thinking that he is "too tired" or | | | | wisest thing to do because his actions still are |
| "making jokes but not seriously making fun about | | | | generated from a part of him he doesn't know and |
| you." This is for real a sad place where he tries to | | | | control. |
| humiliate you to keep you under his control. | | | | The most effective way to heal your mind and soul |
| Being with both feet on the reality ground will give | | | | is to seek help from your friends, family and |
| you a good reason to fight back. At this point, the | | | | professional experts. Your friends and family are also |
| unequal relationship between you and your husband is | | | | ready to help you. You are not alone in this battle. In |
| already twisted. Whatever the explanations he would | | | | this critical period of your life, you will know who |
| give about abusing you, he still has no right to | | | | your true friends really are. People who would not |
| humiliate and insult another person. | | | | see the damage to your self-esteem and insist on |
| And the fact that he is abusing the same person | | | | you keeping the marriage alive only by yourself will |
| who has surrendered to him by way of love tells you | | | | produce more hurt. |
| that there is not a lot of character in him. Probably he | | | | Forgiving and understanding him will not yield any |
| is scared of you leaving him and thus he has decided | | | | results if he is not willing to examine his behavior and |
| to control you in such a way you will think there is | | | | be ready to give up power and the will to control |
| nobody else left who would accept you. This is the | | | | you by abuse. You need to seek power within you |
| decision that escalates the mistakes he is already | | | | and learn to cope with life without his abusive |
| doing, because you as a any woman deserve to be | | | | support. Honestly, you need to trust your own |
| loved and respected and cared for. | | | | power and know that can do many things without |
| Here is the main point: while you experience the need | | | | him. Learn to trust yourself that you can live without |
| to be appreciated, valued and cherished by him, and | | | | his abuse and power to humiliate you. |
| only by him, he is so scared that he prefers you to | | | | The most effective way to heal your mind and soul |
| hate him by means of making you feel abused. This | | | | is to seek help from your friends, family and |
| twisted take makes the relationship extremely | | | | professional experts. Your friends and family are also |
| difficult: you could forgive him only if he realizes what | | | | ready to help you. You are not alone in this battle. In |
| he is doing (destroying the relationship) and makes | | | | this critical period of your life, you will know who |
| amends and asks for forgiveness....He is not at that | | | | your true friends really are. |
| point yet, if he is not willing to learn how to make | | | | Love yourself more than loving and taking care of |
| you really feel respected and loved. | | | | him. Remember that you are not guilty of his abuse, |
| Even when you can still feel that he is the man of | | | | which is always his choice, therefore you should not |
| your life, the only person worthy of your love is the | | | | be blamed for his behavior. A man can only be |
| man who respects you. And from this point of view, | | | | blamed for his own choices, because he can decide |
| he is not the right man for you now. | | | | always how to behave using logic and reason. And is |
| While healing an emotionally abusive relationship, you | | | | irrational for him to blame you for his problems and |
| will gradually take back your freedom both physical | | | | misfortune. A man like this needs to grow up, |
| and mental. There is a lot of anger and frustration in | | | | observe what is he doing wrong and ask for |
| any abused person like you....and it takes time to | | | | forgiveness from you. If you can let him take |
| process. | | | | ownership of his own problems, you then can take |
| You must have lots of questions to be resolved: | | | | care of yourself and your own needs for support, |
| Why did he need to do such nasty things? where did | | | | companionship and respect. |
| he learn how to humiliate others? Does he realize the | | | | Once healing of your emotionally abusive relationship |
| deep hurt his behavior is causing? | | | | occurs, the next step is to learn to let go of your |
| While searching for answers, a woman leaving her | | | | past. Putting the past back means not to be all day |
| abuser has her mind and soul still trapped. There is | | | | occupied thinking on what happened with him. |
| the constant hope that this time he will recognize the | | | | Otherwise, you will feel lots of real and negative |
| damage, and go back to his loving self and apologize | | | | emotions like anger, frustration, shame, fear, hurt, |
| to her.....this is her dream: to be finally justified by his | | | | rejection and guilt. This would keep you lingering on |
| repentance. | | | | and not moving on. |
| Meanwhile, it's difficult to leave him if he doesn't | | | | Working with a good support group, a therapist or a |
| recognize his own influence in the matrimonial | | | | religious advisor you can get the support needed to |
| relationship. If he keeps denying that what he does is | | | | process all the negativity and design a better future |
| abuse, you could get blindsided by his words, this is | | | | for yourself and the children. |