| Enough is enough. At some point in life, each one of | | | | control with which to steer our lives: |
| us achieves a point of 'enough is enough'! This is the | | | | CHOICE - our life is a sequence of choices - actions |
| point of Zero Tolerance which forces us to take a | | | | and consequences. As a Reine de la Rose, you will |
| decision about changing our life. Have you reached | | | | always have a compass to help guide you in your |
| that point yet? | | | | choices. This compass is a simple question:"Will the |
| I did. A couple of months ago. Up to that point I had | | | | choice I make now help to create a world of more |
| very much given up control of my life to external | | | | love, beauty and abundance or not?" The answer |
| circumstances. I was treating 'life' as if it were the | | | | should be your guiding light. |
| 'master' and I was its 'servant': jumping to address | | | | ATTITUDE - no matter what the circumstance, we |
| every issue that came my way, regardless of what I | | | | can always choose our attitude towards that |
| was busy with at the moment or what I had planned | | | | circumstance. I learnt this far too late in life! While I've |
| to do during that time. If this is the state of life you | | | | been generally blessed with a positive attitude and |
| are finding yourself in, listen to me: having what | | | | outlook on life, I never realized that I can choose my |
| Stephen Covey calls the 'locus of control' of your life | | | | attitude every morning in the way I choose my |
| outside of you, will turn you into the play ball of | | | | outfit for the day - and how, even in the course of |
| circumstance. And at the end of it all you will be | | | | the day I can CHOOSE my attitude in how to |
| standing with nothing in your mind except excuses. | | | | respond to circumstances or events. I don't have to |
| Excuses, why you're dead broke. Excuses, why your | | | | have a knee-jerk reaction! The power in this |
| relationships didn't work out. Excuses, why you have | | | | particular choice is incredible. |
| a terribly flabby and unhealthy body. Excuses, why | | | | FAITH - the ability to believe, against all odds, that |
| you're faced with a mountain of debt. Excuses, why | | | | things will always turn to the better for those who |
| you never learnt to keep time. Excuses, why you | | | | believe in Him. At some point in my life I decided on |
| never found your destiny nor fulfilled your potential. | | | | my position with regard to faith: either I believe there |
| Like an abused woman that always returns to her | | | | is a God, and then act as if there were one; or I |
| abuser, letting 'life' or circumstance dictate your | | | | choose to believe that there is none, and then act |
| response is the surest way of all-round | | | | accordingly. To say that we believe in God, and then |
| self-destruction. | | | | act as if He doesn't exist simply doesn't cut it. As a |
| Becoming aware of this behaviour is especially | | | | Reine de la Rose you must create a sense of clarity |
| important for us as women: we are often raised to | | | | about who you are, what you believe in and what |
| believe that we are, in fact, the 'lesser gender'. Our | | | | you stand for. There is no space for ambiguity. |
| men and our children are always put first. And if we | | | | Doubt, on occasion, is human. But even then, if you |
| don't have a man or children, we are often made to | | | | want to be a true 'Queen' choose faith. |
| believe that we are selfish and as a result respond to | | | | So today, take the following steps: |
| this criticism by going over the top in serving others | | | | 1. Decide on your 'Zero Tolerance' issues: what are |
| around us. It's time for all of us women to adopt the | | | | you no longer willing to accept in your life? |
| mindset of a 'Reine de la Rose'- a Rose Queen. A | | | | 2. Think about choices that you are facing in life at |
| 'Reine de la Rose' knows her worth, her self-worth. | | | | this point in time and test them against the critical |
| And knows that her time is her greatest asset, to be | | | | question: "Will this choice help me to create a life and |
| spent wisely in order to achieve all the various | | | | a world of love, beauty and abundance?" Only make |
| dreams she has decided to follow. | | | | choices that will contribute to this goal. |
| Make a choice to adopt the attitude of a 'Reine de la | | | | 3. From today onwards, become aware of your |
| Rose' today: take your power back and make sure | | | | attitude and choose a positive attitude, every day, |
| that the 'Locus of Control' is inside you - not driven | | | | like you would apply your moisturizer or make-up |
| by an external force. Choose today to become the | | | | every day, without fail. |
| 'master' of your own life and use life and | | | | 4. Choose to have Faith - even if you cannot yet |
| circumstance as your 'servant' towards creating a | | | | see the way or the bigger picture or have no |
| world of more love, greater beauty and abundance | | | | personal vision, have faith that if you ask God for |
| for all. | | | | this everyday He will show it to you clearly, when |
| God has given us humans three critical levers of | | | | you're ready for it! |