Emotional and Verbal Abuse: Making the Choice to Leave

Abuse takes away freedom.Do you have those cute shoes that you can only
Our souls thrive in freedom.wear out to dinner? And that's because you will be
They die in abuse.sitting down most of the time. We hope so much to
When we allow another person to enter our sacredbreak those shoes in. We try and try. What
space and poison us, we slowly die.happens? We end up with corns from the friction,
If you are a victim of abuse reading this, youbut oh aren't my shoes cute?
deserve more than tolerating life.It's similar to abuse in the fact that we stay with the
I know the shame you feel.abuser, hoping to break him in. Saying things like
People have asked me why did I stay? I tell them'When we are married it'll get better or He's just had
that I was committed to the entity of marriage. Ia bad day.' Here's the catch. He is not a pair of shoes.
find it interesting how we commit to a label and loseInstead of getting a corn on your foot you develop
commitment to ourselves.one on your heart.
We cling to the images we see on soap operas andThe build up of having to protect your spirit from
movies. The happily everafter.insult causes the corn to wall off your feelings.
We enter marriage on a fairytale. One day we wakeBottom Line: We need to truly evaluate what we
up, and wonder what happened to our mind. Yourvalue in ourselves. Do we value the health of our
mind was always there. Your commitment was tosouls or value the label of marriage for appearance.
appearance rather than your soul.The choice is yours. You do have a choice.
Oprah had a show recently that helped me come upRemember that you are important in this world and
with a good analogy of tolerating an abusiveGod wants you to live fully and abundantly. You are
relationship. Oprah confessed that she tolerated herunique. Be bold and live with power . The person
feet being in pain for the sake of cute shoes. I canstanding in the way is you.
identify with that. I bet you can too.