| The issues surrounding workplace bullying go much | | | | They inflict the same pain to other people who they |
| deeper than the superficial desire of establishing | | | | feel are inferior to them. It gives them the |
| control and power over other people. Often its roots | | | | satisfaction of finally being in control instead of the |
| go way back from early childhood experiences of the | | | | one who is abused and shamed. |
| bully. They may have been inflicted with traumatic | | | | Growing up as a child in an environment where you |
| emotional abuse that made them overly competitive | | | | are deprived of being validated can leave deep scars. |
| and constantly seeking to prove their self-worth. | | | | These are hard to erase in your memory. Studies |
| It is only appropriate then to understand the root | | | | revealed two origins of shame that later cause a |
| causes of the bully to fully find the means to mend | | | | person to become bullies when put in a position of |
| the brokenness on these people. They need to | | | | power. |
| understand they don't need to resort to bullying in | | | | In "depriving shame" the person does not feel any |
| order to establish balance in their lives. | | | | support and validation as a child. While growing up |
| Studies show that most managers abuse for two | | | | they accumulate shame that develops to as sense of |
| common reasons. One is the normative source and | | | | self-worthlessness which they carry with them as |
| the other is the internal source. | | | | they grow older. |
| Normative source comes from the pressure by other | | | | In "punishing shame" the person was often severely |
| managers to abuse and the wrong culture that has | | | | corrected as a child. They get used to being noticed |
| developed within the workplace. The organization can | | | | for their failures. When they become managers they |
| be built around a wrong sense of leadership wherein | | | | are usually very abusive towards their subordinates. |
| force and manipulation are condoned to achieve the | | | | We all are very complicated human beings. The list of |
| desired output. In this case managers will surely have | | | | root causes is of course much longer than what we |
| the tendency to show such behavior, simply because | | | | discussed right now. That's why it's always important |
| it is commonly practiced. | | | | to deal with workplace bullying with sensitivity and |
| Internal source comes from the past injuries and | | | | compassion as emotions are often times involved in |
| emotional torment that the bully has experienced as | | | | the issue. People may be bullying without really |
| a child or in the earlier years of his or her life. The | | | | understanding why they do this. |
| abuse and shame we have suffered in the past | | | | Make sure you take control over the situation. |
| often manifest all throughout our lives when this is | | | | Uncover the root cause and get this sorted out. It |
| not properly healed and dealt with. This is what | | | | will make your interaction with people who bully much |
| happened with workplace bullies who use bullying to | | | | more pleasant. |
| unload the hurts and pains they suffered before. | | | | |