Domestic Violence Programs Hurting Women

The community treatment of abused women, evenas a trouble-maker and forbidden to come back. I
in large metropolitan areas, remains in the Dark Ages,was told that I could return if I did not interfere but
according to my experience as a clinician. Instead ofto "keep that lawyer away from here."
being nursed and pampered, victims are forced toA model program, according to my view, would be
live in dank shelters and given menial chores plusheaded by a full-time social worker or psychologist
made to care for themselves and any children.who has thoroughly studied child abuse, emotional
One of my patients who had no-where else to go intrauma, and the treatment of both. The treatment
order to escape her abuser spent one night with herof domestic violence is largely the treatment of
small son in one of these places and left as soon asemotional trauma, quite often posttraumatic stress
she could the next day. She told me the place was adisorder.
roach-infested rat's nest.The director would also have enough training in
Yet these women have no friends for the most partneuropsychology to recognize the possible presence
because their abusers have chased them all away.of traumatic brain injuries. In addition, there would be
Their families have given up on them in many cases.an attorney with training and experience in abuse
Because abuse results in extreme social isolation, theretained on a contractual on-call basis.
woman is usually without any other resource toAn ideal shelter would care for both the mother and
initiate a rescue operation; that is, to help her leaveher children, but certainly not in an institutional
her abuser safely and then provide what is necessaryenvironment as is mostly the case. The ambiance
for housing, child care, and all the other requirementswould be resort-like and would provide ample privacy.
for breaking the cycle. As a result, victims must turnInstead of making the victims prepare their own
to public programs to perform these life-savingmeals and clean their own quarters, they would be
functions.regarded as guests who had earned the right to
Women experience a culture shock when suddenlyspecial consideration through what they had suffered.
thrust into a milieu that is foreign to them. TheseA family physician, a pediatrician, and a gynecologist
shelters tend to have a ghetto atmosphere, and thewould be on-call, contractually. Instead of riding in a
living conditions are deplorable. Even women who arevan to a clinic, guests would receive their medical
accustomed to poverty are unnerved.care on-sight. There would be a play area for children,
These domestic violence projects usually assistwell supervised by gentle staff.
victims in filing restraining orders against theirThere might be an exercise room, but certainly a
oppressors. The victims feel somewhat comfortedvery pleasant social area, attractively and
by such a court injunction until they find out that thecomfortably furnished. Each individual room would
piece of paper is worthless. Either the restraininghave its own bath and be equipped with TV, plush
order is never served on the offender or, if it is, thecarpet, and other amenities.
abuser becomes further enraged.One might say that the expense would be prohibitive.
The victims receive group therapy byHowever, that is not the case, as professional fees
paraprofessionals and volunteers with an anti-malewould be covered by third-party payors, such as
slant. Upper-level mental-health professionals, such asMedicaid, private insurance, or grant funding. The
psychologists and psychiatrists, are rarely associatedfacility itself could be constructed with the help of an
with these havens except perhaps on a consultingallocation of the city or county budget, or perhaps
basis. Even then, these consultants are rarely familiarthrough private or corporate gifts.
with the treatment of emotional trauma or any ofSpecialized individual and group treatment would be
the roots of domestic violence.available on a daily basis, including weekends, but
I mean no less than to say that many of theseattendance would be optional when first admitted. A
facilities are ignorant as to what a victim needs. Butfull-time nurse who understands the issues and is
these organizations, for the most part, are deeplyperhaps a survivor would be a key staff member.
entrenched in the community and not open toIn brief, any connotation of punishment, discipline, or
change. They have staked out their territory, andforced confinement must be completely reversed
they are not about to allow outsiders within theirbecause, after all, the victim believes that she
borders.deserves punishment. That mindset is one of the first
An attorney-friend with the same concerns as mythat must be countered.
own joined me at a meeting of a domestic-violenceThis article has been furnished courtesy of St. James
task force. When he pointed at that injunctions werethe Elder Theological Seminary, Jacksonville, Florida, Fr.
neither being served nor enforced, he was brandedHeyward B. Ewart, III, Ph.D., president.