| Are you being victimized by an abuser? Learn the | | | | he gets. He ridicules your family and friends, |
| characteristics of an abuser and escape before the | | | | condemning and criticizing them, using derogatory |
| abuse starts. | | | | terms to describe them and you. He's disrespectful of |
| 1. Ridicules, Criticizes, and Condemns | | | | your time and interests. |
| Does your partner ridicule, criticize, and condemn | | | | 5. Controlling |
| you? Those who put others down to feel better | | | | Your partner must know where you are and have |
| about themselves often resort to other bad behavior | | | | access to you at all times, often following you to |
| to feel better about themselves too. Don't allow | | | | work, calling you at work and accusing you of having |
| anyone to condemn you, ridicule your choices, or | | | | an affair, flirting, or doing things behind his back. He |
| criticize who you choose to be. Walk away. | | | | wants to know everything you do, while keeping |
| 2. Anger Management Difficulties | | | | secrets about his own activities. |
| Does your partner have a short fuse? Does your | | | | 6. Immature and Childish |
| partner anger easily? Those who anger easily, unable | | | | No matter what you do, he doesn't believe you really |
| to reason through issues and difficulties often resort | | | | love him unless you buy him the toys he wants, |
| to abuse to get what they want. If he kicks the | | | | keep him satisfied, and makes you think it's your |
| door down, how long will it be until he's kicking you? | | | | fault his life isn't perfect. He blames you and lives by |
| 3. Self-Centered Attitude | | | | a double standard, expecting you to keep 'rules' that |
| Everything in his life is more important than you. He | | | | he doesn't follow himself. |
| makes sure you know that you really don't count for | | | | 7. Irresponsible |
| much, he isn't really interested in you, doesn't even | | | | Your partner isn't responsible, uses you, doesn't take |
| like you very much, but he tolerates you in his life? | | | | responsibility for himself. He isn't dependable, may not |
| For what? He chooses anything else over you, and | | | | have a job or keep a job, and nothing is ever his |
| makes certain you know he doesn't value you. | | | | fault. He blames everyone else for his failures. He |
| 4. Demanding and Possessive | | | | often blames you for his own emotional reactions |
| Your partner doesn't like your friends and family, and | | | | and bad behaviors. |
| makes every effort to condemn them every chance | | | | Are you in an Abusive Relationship? |