| To add insult to injury, confusion to the complicated, | | | | gravitates. And as hard as this may seem, recognize |
| mystery to the already oozing drama is the use of | | | | this too is NOT about you. |
| your own family to carry out your abusive partner's | | | | Abusive people will use any and all of your natural |
| agenda. Why? | | | | network of strength as though they own natural |
| Whose Family Is My Family? | | | | rights to what's yours. And from here, they will work |
| If you're perplexed as to why your parents are | | | | these supporters to be your enemies and to become |
| suddenly supporting your partner's desire to have | | | | their allies, all in an effort to strengthen their efforts |
| you out of your house, or his interest to have you | | | | to carry out their own agendas. |
| out of your children's lives, it may be time to look | | | | If you approach the least likely member of your |
| closer at the dynamics in play. | | | | family to be drawn into this strategic ploy first, you |
| If you don't, you may be inadvertently allowing for | | | | will be more successful at influencing the whole clan |
| the destruction of some important family support at | | | | before the seduced support for your partner's |
| a time when you need them most. In fact this, in | | | | agenda spirals out of control. |
| part, is why this strategy is often used. It adds to | | | | Let this family member know you know what is and |
| your isolation! | | | | or may be going on, and ask them to serve as your |
| What to Do When You Notice Your Family Is Acting | | | | voice with other members of the family. This way |
| Like His Family | | | | you can keep your focus on your personal battles |
| If you are working your way out of an abusive | | | | and enlist a messenger to offset this ploy. |
| relationship and must pass through the social political | | | | Furthermore, this family member's message to the |
| ropes of family court, pay close attention to what | | | | rest of the family is likely to be received more |
| side of the courtroom your immediate family | | | | objectively than if it came from you. |