| Divorce is never an easy decision to make. There is a | | | | someone, or otherwise commits a crime due to the |
| shared history, living arrangements, finances, mutual | | | | influence of the substance. Your life is likely to be |
| friends and family members, and of course the | | | | consumed with the series of crises that your |
| children to consider. However, there are instances | | | | partner's addictions create. You may even be in |
| where the damage and cost of staying in a marriage | | | | danger of being injured by your partner when he or |
| may be higher than the damage that will occur by | | | | she is under the influence, for example if you get into |
| leaving it. In these situations, ultimately saving | | | | a car with him or her and there is an accident. |
| yourself may a better option than trying to maintain | | | | 3. Your partner commits serial infidelity. A marriage |
| a marriage that is harmful to you. Here are 4 signs | | | | can actually be strengthened after an affair if both |
| the marriage may be better off ending. | | | | parties make an effort, communication is improved, |
| 1. There is abuse in the relationship. If there is | | | | and there is greater accountability between the |
| physical abuse occurring, please consult with a | | | | spouses. However, if infidelity is a pattern, trust can |
| domestic violence shelter or a counselor who | | | | never be restored and there is no foundation for the |
| specializes in this issue. You need professional advice | | | | marriage. In addition, you are putting your health at |
| to help you figure out the best approach to getting | | | | risk by remaining in a non-monogamous relationship. |
| out of your particular situation safely. If you are a | | | | 4. Your partner has a personality disorder. These |
| victim of emotional and psychological abuse, | | | | disorders, like narcissism and sociopathy/psychopathy, |
| understand that like physical abuse, it will often get | | | | are hard wired personality disfunctions that cause |
| worse. Emotional abuse is extremely psychologically | | | | individuals to act out in hurtful and destructive ways. |
| damaging and the effects can be long lasting. | | | | Essentially the personality cannot be significantly |
| 2. Your partner has an untreated addiction. There are | | | | changed, so staying with a sociopath, for example, |
| many concerns with this scenario. Practically speaking, | | | | will be an exercise in sadness, bewilderment, and |
| you could be setting yourself up for legal and financial | | | | behavioral management. |
| woes if your partner drinks and drives, injures or kills | | | | |