| At some point in time, you may have to deal with | | | | orders. If you have a restraining order against your |
| your ex-wife pulling the "abuse" card. Out of spite | | | | ex-wife, for example, and then she wants to come |
| or anger, she may at some point state that you | | | | over to your place to pick up some of the kids' |
| have abused her or the children, whether the | | | | things, this simple act could put you in contempt for |
| statement is true or not. Since the courts, state, | | | | not following court orders. Do not agree to the |
| and Child Protection Services take abuse seriously, it | | | | visit, do not answer your door, and whatever you |
| may put a halt in the court case and cause a number | | | | do, do not let her around you. This way, you |
| of other issues during your divorce case or your child | | | | cannot be faulted for going against a temporary |
| custody case. But knowing what your rights are | | | | restraining order. |
| against false allegations is important. | | | | One thing to consider is whether you should fight |
| One of the most important things to do when faced | | | | back. If you know the statements are false, you |
| with false allegations of abuse is to demand proof | | | | could sue your ex, her attorney, and everyone else |
| from your ex-wife. Whether the statements are | | | | involved for defamation of character. This, in itself, |
| true or not, Judges take any statements of abuse or | | | | may be enough to get your ex-wife to back off and |
| violence seriously and will follow their gut instinct. | | | | drop the charges. Know that if you fight the |
| But if your ex-wife has proof, it might make your | | | | allegations too hard, you may come off looking guilty, |
| statements against the allegations worthless. In | | | | but the same is true if you don't acknowledge the |
| most cases, an ex-wife will use the "abuse" card to | | | | accusations at all. Be careful how you continue, |
| get the courts to be in her favor, but an allegation | | | | tread lightly, but don't let any false allegations throw |
| that later turns out to be false will turn the courts | | | | you off and make you give up on getting custody of |
| against her, instead. Demand proof, if any. | | | | your children! |
| Second, know the boundaries set by any restraining | | | | |