| How do you deal with someone who is verbally | | | | will notice the underlying issue of control dominating |
| abusive and tells you that you are always wrong? | | | | the interaction. So, pull the right-wrong battle out of |
| This is a good question and a concern shared by | | | | the equation and accept that your interpersonal |
| many men and women. | | | | exchange is all about someone seeking control. |
| Have you ever noticed that some people will always | | | | 2) Realize that what you resist persists. The more |
| come out "right" no matter what the exchange is | | | | you fight against your opposition, the deeper his/her |
| regarding? And in order for them to hold this position, | | | | heels embed into the ground. And with this fueling of |
| you are assigned the position of being "wrong" | | | | their mission to "win," you gravitate further and |
| irrespective of actual facts. | | | | further from the "real" issues. |
| Now it happens that these folks who always need to | | | | 3) Remember the historical proverb: "Reason is not |
| be right are merely seeking control. When you look | | | | automatic. Those who deny it, can't be conquered by |
| closely at the disputes you have with them, you | | | | it." At some point, you will serve yourself best by |
| notice that the details are only meaningful so as to | | | | taking your reason weapon and putting it to rest. For |
| establish positioning. Yet as facts, in and of | | | | the day will come when your using your reason will |
| themselves, the argumentative specifics don't mean a | | | | indeed shine the light. |
| whole heck of a lot. | | | | Until then know when someone MUST make you |
| Here are some things you can do when dealing with | | | | wrong, they are merely making themselves right. And |
| someone who insists that you are always "wrong." | | | | fortunately for you, it's not about you. |
| 1) See the dispute for what it is. In many cases, you | | | | |