| Losing friends because of Chronic Pain | | | | I also became high maintanence. Going out now |
| I have lost friends this past year, and am sad to say | | | | requires precision planning. I went from being the one |
| that it seems to be something most pain survivors | | | | who would drive when we went out, to being the |
| I've spoken to have encountered. | | | | person who needed to be picked up. The car couldn't |
| A couple of them were down to communication. I | | | | be parked too far away as I can't walk too far, |
| never told them what I needed, and they didn't | | | | there needs to be seats in the venue, and minimal |
| know what to say. I was quite surprised at the | | | | stairs. |
| people this happened with. I didn't expect it from | | | | I thought I was too much trouble, and so I rejected |
| them at all. | | | | the invitations. Eventually the calls stopped coming. |
| The others were down to the fact that I couldn't | | | | I was sad at the time, but rather than focus on |
| fulfil my role anymore. I was the agony aunt, any | | | | them, I now absolutely thank God for the people I |
| problem small or large I was the one to talk to. | | | | have in my life right now. |
| Then I started actually being in agony. The | | | | They've seen me at my worst, and still here. It |
| conversations were no longer about them, it was | | | | wasn't easy though, and I'll explain in my next post |
| about me. They didn't like it at all. I'd try to still be | | | | how we managed it. |
| there and listen, but it's hard to feel sympathy for | | | | In talking to others who are suffering, I've found |
| someone who is in a situation of their own making. I | | | | that not everyone is lucky enough to have |
| became quite annoyed because they were moaning | | | | supportive people around them, and so if you have |
| when they had their health. They could go to work, | | | | someone in your life like that, treat them well and |
| and they had no limitations but the ones they put on | | | | remember to say thank you. |
| themselves. | | | | |