| While divorce can be a problem, it is made many | | | | The fear actually created the opportunity . If the ex |
| times more difficult when you have to deal with an | | | | creates a pattern of harassing you while they have |
| angry ex every time you exchange the children. In a | | | | custody of the children, it is reasonable for you to be |
| high conflict relationship, it is very difficult to maintain | | | | fearful for both your child and for yourself. You |
| any type of civility when you have frequent visitation | | | | should document everything the ex says to you in |
| exchanges. This gives a chance for angry parents to | | | | any form. You should keep phone messages, text |
| argue about anything and everything. | | | | messages and email messages. These will become |
| It is a shame that it happens but the truth is that | | | | the foundation of your legal motion. |
| seeing an angry ex on a regular basis can put you | | | | The legal motions you should consider filing might |
| right in their angry cross-hairs. This can be especially | | | | include, a Domestic Violence Restraining Order, a No |
| troublesome if they are still trying to hang onto a | | | | Contact Order, limited or supervised visitation, and |
| relationship with you. | | | | sole custody. A parent exposing a child to angry |
| It is not uncommon for the angry ex to feel as if | | | | tirades while having the child in their care is clearly not |
| they are enabling you to have a social life when they | | | | acting in the child's best interest. |
| are watching the children. You may receive phone | | | | While an angry ex is understandably frightening and |
| calls, text messages, or be followed by them while | | | | upsetting, they are also providing you the tools you |
| they have the children because they are convinced | | | | need to control them. Don't let them intimidate or be |
| you are seeing someone or are somehow enjoying | | | | nice to get you to drop it. Use it and let the law |
| yourself. This is both very scary and a very real | | | | protect you. |
| opportunity. | | | | |