| The first important premise here is that the parents | | | | you want. Make sure you setup your visitation |
| cannot come to an agreement. If parents can work | | | | schedule ahead of time and create that pattern |
| things out on their own, there is no need for the | | | | before you get to court. This way your temporary |
| courts to become involved. Often times parents | | | | order will reflect what you truly want. Temporary |
| wonder if there is a mandatory requirement that | | | | orders often become permanent and here’s |
| they have a custody agreement if they don’t | | | | why. |
| live together. The answer is there is no requirement | | | | Most people are required to go to mediation as part |
| to have an agreement. Child Custody agreements are | | | | of the process. If the issues are not resolved their |
| only required if they cannot agree. | | | | you could go onto evaluation, and trial. At minimum |
| The whole process gets kicked off by filing a motion, | | | | most people spend 4-6 months going through the |
| sometimes known as an order to show cause. Either | | | | process. If you are in a high conflict custody battle |
| parent can file this and then the rules begin. The | | | | then you can plan on 12-24 months to get through |
| parent who files must notify the other parent (there | | | | the process. If your temporary order was a bad |
| are rules provided on the form you fill out). Then the | | | | decision, you may have to live with it forever. You |
| other parent gets to reply with their own filing. Both | | | | see after 6, 12, 18, 24 months, courts do not like to |
| of them end up in court on an assigned date to start | | | | change a child's routine. Now you would be stuck |
| the process. | | | | trying to make a change and restarting the process. |
| What you really need to know about this is that | | | | So if you can agree with the other parent or at least |
| when you fill out the documents for the first time, | | | | negotiate the big ticket issues you will be much |
| be sure you are organized and ask for exactly what | | | | better off. |